Can't get over SO's post

placated_doll · 2016-03-28T23:55:53+00:00

May I ask how old is your SO?

PhantomDream09 · 2016-03-29T01:19:40+00:00

And this is why the majority of men can't have honest conversations with their women. You want him to be obsessed with you and you alone, without any questions or doubts or hesitations - even though in your very own post, you admit to telling him that you felt conflicted.

I explained that I honestly an not ready for those things either and I genuinely just love spending time together, and try to not worry about what the future holds for us as a couple.

Had he said that to you - I bet you'd feel insecure. "This is great, for now...but I can't say I see our future looking like anything specific." You want the freedom to voice doubts, but you expect him to be nothing less than 1000% invested in a life with you. Not particularly realistic.

If you can't figure out how to let it go and move on, then your only option is to end the relationship. Otherwise you'll just find subversive ways to bring it back up over and over again, and use it as an excuse to justify non-related actions/behaviors.

Lucy__Sky · 2016-03-29T00:04:21+00:00

But then he says things like “I don’t know if I can be in a relationship” and “ill never get married.”

NEXT

You're 23. Don't waste time

“17 days ago” but he “could have sworn it was longer than that.”

Dishonest and hamstery

He flip flops back and forth on you. That's how you wind up strung along for years.

NEXT

Littleknownfacts · 2016-03-29T00:10:19+00:00

I just want him to know that at the end of the day, he wants to be with me.

Do you mean that at the end of the day you want to know that he wants to be with you? Well you know because at the end of the day he is with you. If he wanted out, if he felt it you weren't worth the trouble, he would actually break up with you.

It sucks that you saw his doubt, but he wouldn't have doubt if he wasn't a smart cautious man. The important thing is that even after questioning your relationship, he still found you to be the better option. Take it as a victory. Doubt will come and go, for both of you probably, the important thing is always coming back from that ledge.

If you thought he was a good man before, then nothing has changed. As long as you felt he was treating you well before, and he continues to treat you well, he hasn't changed since you found out he made that post. That's what's important, how he acts towards you, not what he writes to his bros in the guise of anonymity.

Title	Can't get over SO's post
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	March 28, 2016 11:37 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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