Guys, I need your advice on how to break up with my SO.

ExistentialDread · 2014-06-15T11:01:04+00:00

You're trying to have your cake and eat it too. It doesn't work that way. I'm in my late thirties and have been married for 13 years. I've seen what works and what doesn't based on personal experience and observing dozens of close friends in families and marriages, both successful and unsuccessful.

If you leave the relationship, you will likely be replaced by another man. If your girlfriend gets married to another man, which is a strong possibility if she is young and attractive, your child will call that man "father". Your child may even take his surname. You will not be part of the family without commitment to your girlfriend; get it out of your head that you can ride the cunt carousel while still being part of the family, it doesn't work like that.

[deleted] · 2014-06-15T12:50:40+00:00

You've made your bed lay in it ! Downgrade the mother of your child to a plate ? Like that's going to work. Are you really going to jeopardise your family to get a bit of action on the side. So basically you read a bit of TRP and decided you like the idea of fucking sluts. It's not as easy as it sound. To be honest you sound like you're living in Disneyland. I guarantee you won't get a fraction of the action you think you will. You'll be crawling back to her with your tell between your legs when she gets a new man and she'll tell you to take a hike.

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JohnGalt316 · 2014-06-15T11:24:59+00:00

"It's not her, she's actually a pretty quality woman, and if I had met her in my thirties, I'd be more than happy to commit to her."

hamsters gonna hamster

IrishLuigi · 2014-06-15T12:30:27+00:00

It's not her, she's actually a pretty quality woman, and if I had met her in my thirties, I'd be more than happy to commit to her.

You sound like the male version of the whore who wants to avoid commitment and ride the carousel.

pupplenupple · 2014-06-15T12:27:29+00:00

You've got a son. Be a good man in his eyes.

abXcv · 2014-06-15T13:02:45+00:00

Honestly, there is nothing you can do that will give you a good chance at what you want.

The way I see it, your options are to stay with her and your child, or be apart from them.

A plate thing might work for a while, but eventually she's going to be in another relationship, and another guy is going to be your child's stepdad.

You just need to make the decision on what you want more.

Redpill isn't all about spinning plates and casual sex.

However, if you really aren't happy, maybe try negotiating an open relationship type deal, but be prepared for her to fuck other people as well as you.

Not many women are into the idea of letting their man play around while they don't.

OKJaded · 2014-06-15T13:40:29+00:00

Things that are not Blue Pill does not mean they are automatically Red Pill. Its not binary, its not black and white.

OP "I made the decision to be a part of its life" part of his life.

If she is the quality woman you describe what is stopping you from being the quality partner to her a RP man would be and raising her up with you? Part of being a man is fixing what is wrong. You need to fix what's wrong. Not downgrade the mother of your child to a plate. The fact you say you need to reset and start living for yourself shows how much more learning you need to do. You have a child, a three year old boy, he is now your #1. You need to raise him to be a man. Once you are gone, he is the shadow you leave behind.

throwaway_explainer · 2014-06-15T16:49:24+00:00

Son,

once you ride the carousel until it gets boring, you start to look back. During the ride you learn to appreciate women who have not ruined themselves doing the same.

What do you want from life?

It is sad to see that people do the same mistakes over and over again, only to find themselves looking back when they're old, and realizing they had it all but ruined it. Cowards.

otiswild · 2014-06-15T12:19:55+00:00

TRP doesn't exempt you from The Golden Rule and its inverse: do unto others as you would have done unto you, and do not do unto others as you would have not done to you.

Mjazz3 · 2014-06-15T11:22:00+00:00

The advice you are getting here from others is pretty good. If you walk away from this woman you are probably walking away from the kid as well. If thats what you want then just do it. Otherwise its marriage with the possibility of a bit on the side from time to time. Thats what ive done for 20 years and its been ok. The kids are great and the wife is good by modeen standards.

temparooney · 2014-06-15T16:32:27+00:00

I'm not sympathetic. You've won the game, now you want to start over from the beginning. But that imposes too many costs.

I almost never say this, but man up. Take care of your wife and son ("he" not "it") and may you have many more together. Don't be too particular about what you think of this girl. Realize that even when they're nice and attracted to you at first, often this ceases, especially with kids on the scene.

Go score with a few prostitutes if you want. But don't fuck up everyone's life for some outside sex.

Title	Guys, I need your advice on how to break up with my SO.
Author	FiercelyCalibrating
Upvotes	0
Comments	23
Date	June 15, 2014 9:23 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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