Girl I'm gaming tells me she was raped out of nowhere. What is the proper response?

awalt_cupcake · 2016-02-20T15:19:38+00:00

I had a similar experience when I was a wee lad. She was HB8 and looked like Olivia Munn. She was actually working at a Taco Bell and I picked her up (1991). She was 17 or 18 and I was 21.

I met her at a different restaurant and from there we went down to the bar district. On the way there she lifts her skirt and says, "Look, I'm wearing French Cut Panties."

I didn't look because I was driving but once I realized what she had said I asked her to show me again. She did. I kind of had a feeling this was going to be a good night. She was gorgeous. I love that smooth olive skin and shiny black hair. And I didn't know what French Cut Panties were before then, but I definitely liked them.

While we were driving she tells me about her last two boyfriends. The first one she said had raped her. She wouldn't elaborate too much on that one, but the second guy she told me about.

Apparently he was a fireman and she had invited him over. When he got there she was taking a bubble bath. So, they took a bubble bath together and then he raped her.

So yeah, there's a lot of info missing like, "Why did you invite a guy you barely know over to your house while you were taking a bath and then invite him to take a bath and then take him into your bedroom and then somehow get raped?"

This is what I was thinking and I was ready to end the date early, but she was fun to be around and also she was super sexy and I didn't want to miss a chance with her.

I had driven her back to her car but she didn't want to go home yet so we went and parked off in the woods. We got in the back seat and she was on my lap straddling me and completely naked. I had my dick out and ready to go and I reached for a condom and I said, "Do you want to have sex?"

She says, "No."

I said, "I have a condom."

She says, "No", and then starts kissing and grinding on me ever more.

It's at this point that I realized what was about to happen and why it was going to happen. It wouldn't have taken anything to guide her down on my dick or to have thrust up into her.

I felt at the time this is what she wanted. She wanted to believe she was innocent and sweet and virginal, but she also wanted some dick from a strong man that got what he wanted. Being able to call the cops on him later and get him charged with rape was just a bonus.

I pushed her off me and said I needed to get some air. I walked around outside and started to pull myself together when she came out and tried to seduce me some more.

I told her I was taking her back and that was the end of it.

So then, next time a woman tells you she was raped ask her for the details. Ask her how it happened. What happened to the guy. Has it happened before.

Some women have rape fantasies and don't know how to go about fulfilling them. So they lure a guy into their web and do everything but say, "Yes" and then continue to encourage him in other ways until she gets what she wants.

So, my advice is when a woman says she's been raped then she's broken. She might want you to fuck her and do some rough stuff with her. You could always talk to her about it and get actual consent, but you are risking getting caught in a jackpot.

SpinPlates · 2016-02-20T13:10:58+00:00

"That's unfortunate. Bye"

I spun this plate years ago that was sexually abused by her father and uncle when she wss a child. She still to this day is the best sex I ever had in my life.

But she was also by far the craziest plate of my life. Straight up suicidal. The only girl I ever had to go into my nightstand and take my handgun out, disassemble it and hide the pieces of it and the ammunition around my apartment. I put the frame back in the night stand and the slide and barrel in the kitchen cabinet and the ammunition in my closest when she would come over.

I wasn't about to wake up with a .40 against my head and her sitting on top of me "Goodfellas" style.

MachoMonk · 2016-02-20T19:02:29+00:00

Funny how a girl who just met you snuggles in close within a few mins of talking to you tell you she's shy... Then tells you she's a rape victim as if that's something you tell a guy when you first meet them.

My interpretation: The girl is emotionally damaged. She loves fucking - and wants to get fucked by a bad boy, but has the maturity level of a 7 year old.

The rape victim story was an obvious shit test - her personal SMV meter apparently perceives a man's capacity for ruthlessness as a type of virility - like because you DGAF about her whiny declaration of victimhood you're more likely to aggressively ravish her - which is what turns her on - and is a prequalifier for sex. She completely navigates with her lizard brain - it's likely she isn't even self aware of what she is doing. All she knows is her own emotional response. When you showed empathy and caution instead of sexual assertion she recoiled.

Its not like she doesn't actually believe on some level that she's a rape victim - because she does. In the moment she loves being ravished and fucked hard, but in retrospect the memory doesn't spark positive emotion, because after the sex the dude at some point discovers (sometimes sooner, sometimes later) she's a terrible partner for a relationship and NEXTs her. She ends up feeling some abandonment, which feels like a violation - and conflates that with a feeling of being raped. Dude pounded her like schnitzel and didn't stick around - RAPE! She goes through this cycle a few times never figuring out why she keeps getting fucked and dumped - or even that's what's happening.

The obvious trouble with this pattern of insanity is that each dude that takes her to pound town is essentially playing Russian roulette. If she's in college, and a "studies" major, she's eventually going to relate her version of reality to someone who will direct her to a Title IX person and then all hell will break loose. She'll place a bullseye on whatever unlucky bastard happens to get a live round. That unfortunate soul will provide the emotionally damaged girl with a dumping ground to cathartically unload the frustration of every dysfunctional event in her fucked up life. He's blameless of course, but that doesn't mean shit because now he represents the entire male gender and through him she (and her feminist advocates) will make all males pay.

You basically just avoided fucking Mattress Girl.

Of course back in the day, when men were made of iron and ships of wood (heh when I was 18-23) we fucked the living shit out of women like this - there was no Title IX. They both loved and hated it. I had chicks who I fucked who were the horniest wanton harlots you could imagine - grabbed my dick, sucked me off and fucked me with incredible enthusiasm - moaning, thrusting their hips and generally losing their minds while fucking me - tell other dudes bullshit stories about how I took advantage of them or some dumb shit to avoid looking like sluts - and then come back to fuck me again afterwards because they were horny and wanted to get off.

Today as fun as these girls are to fuck, you can't take the risk of one of them getting a little vindictive streak or having some kind of emotional episode after being unable to handle their own decision making. They are weak and love getting fucked hard - and then feel like shit afterwards because they couldn't resist the temptation of a big fat dick. You run the risk of some man-hating political axe grinder getting a hold of them and manipulating these girls into making an example out of you for having your sexual way without capitulating to feminist prescribed constraint and consequence.

mksu · 2016-02-20T13:03:56+00:00

She probably bailed because she realized you wouldn't fulfill her rape fantasy she's deep down craving for.

CDBaller · 2016-02-20T12:37:45+00:00

It's a shit-test to see if you fawn over her. I'm with another response here, just next at that point. Any girl who alleges rape at anyone past will probably accuse you if you get involved. Next.

RedPillAtNight · 2016-02-20T21:44:48+00:00

My last LTR had been raped. She was walking on the beach in college and a guy came up and put a gun to her head. When that happens you do what he says. It had been over 25 years prior.

But I didn't find out about it until we had dated for a year or two. She had worked through it with a counselor, and had decided not to tell her family. There was absolutely no residual behavior in her from it, sexual or otherwise. And the context of her telling me was just so we could be closer and I could understand her better, very healthy and adult-like.

There was no agenda around it, she wasn't trying to manipulate me or otherwise mess with me. I was empathetic about it with her and it was never mentioned again.

If a chick tells you the first few times you are with her, I call bullshit.

cdogg75 · 2016-02-20T15:22:44+00:00

RedBigMan · 2016-02-20T18:45:06+00:00

If she says she was raped or sexually abused or sexually assaulted. Take that as the big ass red flag it really is and bail at the earliest possible opportunity.

RedThrough · 2016-02-20T13:18:58+00:00

Yeah I'd have responded "That sucks" or "Unfortunate to hear" and dropped it, there is no winning move there, but you won by dodging a bullet IMHO. Crazy isn't worth it, even for ONS. She accused a past relationship guy of rape, not even a random dude, so what would you have been when she inevitably regrets you?

[deleted] · 2016-02-20T18:53:09+00:00

K.

then walk away.

[deleted] · 2016-02-20T17:25:45+00:00

Run for the hills

KumonRoguing · 2016-02-21T00:58:07+00:00

Most girls crying rape are a red flag. That you aren't dealing with her anymore is the best ending.

batfish55 · 2016-02-21T00:56:09+00:00

Say you're sorry, politely end the conversation, and run for the hills.

There are two options here.

1 - She's lying. If she's willing to lie and say someone else raped her, do you think she'd have any reservations about saying YOU raped her? You know how hard it is to defend against a rape accusation.

2 - She actually WAS raped. That sucks. But that's not your baggage to deal with. Is that mean? Depends on the point of view. But do you really think she really gives a shit about your problems?

Either way, run.

alpha_n3rd · 2016-02-20T18:51:32+00:00

you really didn't figure it out? she WANTS to be abused. either she's damaged goods or it's just her kink. she's probably a freak in bed.

niczar · 2016-02-21T06:05:52+00:00

You've just learned something important. Be glad the lesson was so clear.

oldredder · 2016-02-21T16:33:37+00:00

there is no proper response. You should break all contact.

She probably wasn't raped and probably was shit-testing you to see if you're the alpha-rage type man who'd want to get that man and kill him (instinct for her is to want a man like that) or a man who'd believe so many men are rapists and you have to un-teach them.

Over-all I think she was feeling guilty that she was going to play you and can't go through with it.

It's factually true most men are not like that and nothing "bitch-boy" about saying it word for word.

You dodged a bullet. I'm betting 80% chance she's got mental problems and wasn't raped.

juliusstreicher · 2016-03-04T01:30:56+00:00

"Most guys are not like that"??????

This is one of the most limp dick responses that I've heard in my life, even from me.

But, to the main, her calling you "too nice" generally means that she thinks you're a wimp, who should have fucked her. Been there, done that.

abdada · 2016-02-20T12:04:32+00:00

She's resting herself on you at a party? How long was this? Why were you talking and not K-closing?

juliusstreicher · 2016-02-20T16:03:15+00:00

Me too. I was sexually abused by my dominatrix ex.

Edit: Another possible (risky) response is: Why are you telling me? Is it actual rape? Or are you calling it that to draw attention?? You chicks just like rough sex but refuse to acknowledge it. If it's actual rape you would've went to the cops.

That said, run like hell. you dodged a bullet. Any women that makes accusations like this are simply not worth associating with.

FakeGuru · 2016-02-21T08:35:51+00:00

Probably she was expecting more sympathy than she got.

Title	Girl I'm gaming tells me she was raped out of nowhere. What is the proper response?
Author	MachoMonk
Upvotes	37
Comments	53
Date	February 20, 2016 12:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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