I (25M) moved to a new city in the summer of 2019 and started seeing a few women every week for roughly 9 months from apps like tinder and hinge. I've probably had sex with 12+ women since moving in those 9 months and have just been having a really awesome time, three of those women were milfs, and one was even a principal at a school lol. I've just been exploring this new city and putting myself out there as far as meeting new women goes.

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At the beginning of 2020 I started talking to this new girl who seemed like all around the kind of girl I would have been satisfied focusing on one girl only for. She was really hard to hang out with at first, always having excuses why she couldn't do something so I just figured whatever, there are plenty of other people I can go out with. She finally agreed to meet up for a beer and food one night and we've been talking since then, she'd come over a lot during the spring and we'd cook dinners together and hang out. She is 22 and has never done anything except kiss other guys, and the more I've hung out with her, the more I've realized she is very awkward and almost anxious constantly.

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So we've been seeing each other since January and exclusively dating since May, I've just found myself finding more and more reasons that I'm just no longer into her Like I thought. She never pays for dates, never makes the effort to actually plan dates, I'm always the guy who has to plan the dates and she just decides what sounds best which is boring af, her sex drive and need for physical requirements are so low I wonder if shes asexual. I cant get her off myself, she doesn't like to do it herself, and she suggested I buy a vibrator to use with her, so I bought one and it also didn't make her cum. She said it didn't even feel like anything? lol wut? So I basically havnt had sex since January/Feb, and she doesn't really see an urge or want to do it, shes too nervous, which is totally fine and I don't really mention it often but at this point in our relationship I just assumed it would have been a little different. She has baby fever hard and talks about having kids all the time, but has like a non-existent sex drive? She also said she wants to keep her last name if she ever got married, but would like to be married in 3 years of dating. Its just kinda weird.. She also doesn't want to sleep over because her mom will know and might be upset? I feel like this is very high school like. She talks like her mom has a very domineering vibe, calls her every night to talk before bed and they all share their locations at all times on the iphone. She's also very set on living in this one city so she can be right by her family all the time, but the issue is I only have one company in this major city that deals with my line of work, my career is in a very niche field and I will absolutely have to move again to advance in the future, but she wouldn't want to.

I really like her and her family is really welcoming and nice but I've come to a realization that she's most likely not the girl for me long term due to the reasons above. Obviously asktrp would say next her, but how big are the red flags I've mentioned above from other peoples perspectives? I feel like her low need for a physical aspect of a relationship is because she's a virgin and is just too nervous, which I can understand. I'm just worried Ill become trapped in a relationship that I will be miserable in. We get along very well and she's a very fun girl for the most part, but after seeing her and dating her for the majority of the year, I've realized there are some red flags that are starting to turn me off. Just tell me what I already know asktrp lol