[18 y/o] Mom mom kicked me out of my house and my dad is letting me back in today, but mother still has hatred towards me. How should I act around her and interact so that I don't get either kicked out or get excessively yelled at?

SalporinRP · 2019-01-22T01:44:07+00:00

Have a fucking sit down with your dad and tell him exactly what happened. He's in the process of divorcing her ass so he obviously have some type of sense.

What country do you live in? That shit she did is illegal. You can't just burn people's clothes and sell their pets because you're mad at them. You're 18 for god's sake.

That being said you have two choices: Suck it up until you move out and live with your father or move out on your down. Maybe ask around and see if you can crash at a friend's house for a bit.

That house sounds toxic as shit.

Herdsengineers · 2019-01-22T03:24:46+00:00

This is way beyond TRP type discussion about women, sex, and growing past all the blue pill programming out there. This is domestic violence, plain and simple, and you are being victimized by your mother. My honest advice is to get together with your father and aunt and have a come to jesus talk about why your mothers behavior is not acceptable. I also suggest you go fill out a police report with your father and aunt. What she did is illegal and is grounds for criminal charges.

Next, go find a lawyer that is willing to represent a male or males dealing with an abusive, crazy bitch. Lay out the situation and let him run with it, but what she did is grounds for a restraining order to have her removed from the home.

Just to spell it out, cutting someone's utilities (including phone) off is illegal. Destroying their things is illegal. The way it happened is violent. She used violence to punish you in a crazy rage. If you're dad won't help you in this regard, go with just your aunt and file for the TPO yourself. it's your home too, you're an adult, you have every right to do this over your father's objections even.

Lastly, this is the exact situation where a crazy bipolar woman manages to escalate things to physically violent, then convinces the cops how innocent she is and gets you arrested. she's already making the accusations. so the best protection is to not be around her. I highly, highly suggest you find some other place to stay besides where she is. File the paperwork anyway because if you don't, later claims of all this will be seen as exaggerations. They will say "it couldn't have been that bad, you went back. You didn't seek help then for all this." Even if filing TPO's and police reports goes nowhere now, you will have the paperwork documenting all this. Then you are protected from being seen as exaggerating later. It can also establish a pattern showing her to be abusive if you need to make the point as part of a defense later.

Forget TRP shit for now. You're 18 and this is a dangerous spot to be in. Get yourself out of this situation ASAP. If you talk to your dad, he needs to do so as well.

Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits · 2019-01-22T01:46:43+00:00

Leave immediately. Get a job, get your own place. Unless you plan on taking legal action.

modern-day-hemingway · 2019-01-22T05:40:01+00:00

have your Aunt vouch for you when you tell the rest of your family what really went down boss. sorry you gotta deal with this shit, grew up in a crazy household too so I know the feel. wish you the best brother

Chadster113 · 2019-01-22T04:13:38+00:00

Plate your mom

Wakawakaheihei · 2019-01-22T05:41:08+00:00

When you get back, start recording EVERYTHING. Tbh with you, personally, I wouldn't care about her anymore and it doesn't matter if you came from her pussy and that she suffered and blablabla, I'd jail her given the chance. But that's just me. I'd treat her like any other person, just judging by what she did to you, I can bet that she didn't give birth to you just because she loves you, nah, she gave birth to you because she's a nobody and you were the solution to her emptiness. That's fucking selfish and doesn't make a her good fucking parent. If you want a child, it must be only because of these reasons:

Your life is dope and your worth doesn't depend on having a child
You get enough resources to support the child
You want to give him a good life so you study how to raise a child. Having a child doesn't make you a good fucking parent by default. You have to learn it.

Obviously if it can be prevented and if you can get out before that idea becomes factible, much better, but keep it in mind everytime you have any contact with her.

As others say, talk with your dad, deeply if he's not another betafag (which judging by his vetting process tells me so, but because of the divorce, maybe he's getting some senses). Try to stay tight together.

Also, after you record everything and you feel like your reputation in the family is worth saving, send them the audios and videos. Try to provoke your mother to get good quality material but don't get in her fucking dramas, short, "make a reaction" responses and to the point. Then when you feel like that's enough, you just get up and leave, don't say shit, just leave back to whatever you were doing. Starting by asking her why she's lying that you beat her is a good start. Then just start to stir shit upz don't react, just keep asking or if she's pressuring, pressure flip or agree and amplify, treat it like a shit test, DONT GET IN HER FUCKING DRAMAS, and of course, never disrespect her, don't insult her, you're the mature one there and treat it like dealing with your lil cousin or sister.

Besides, get the fuck out ASAP, or try to make up a plan with your dad to live somewhere together.

Best of luck.

GGrub8 · 2019-01-22T06:44:22+00:00

The idea of my own mother even thinking of kicking me out is inconceivable to me.

If she attempted something like that when I was a teenager I would have ended up hurting her. Can't think of a worse form of betrayal in nature.

Get out of that situation ASAP because if you do end up hurting her she'll have the law on her side.

Jimmy_Greenteeth · 2019-01-22T09:39:55+00:00

I was in a very similar situation a few years ago. Mum has always been insane/abusive/addicted to drugs and she made a point to psychologically torture me. This resulted in me snapping a few times and screaming in her face which then lead to me being kicked out. She then told all my family that I had not only assualted her but actually tried to kill her... she also rang the police who would probably still arrest me now if they knew where I lived; even two years later. Luckily I convinced my nan how insane she was and she let me stay on the couch there for around a year until I was able to move into some student halls. If you're in college then you have no excuse for not moving into some cheap student flat.

heyhowdyimnew · 2019-01-22T02:53:08+00:00

You shouldn't rely too much on your father. After all, he married your crazy mother. I know everyone makes mistakes, still it shows there is a propensity there to excuse crazy.

kellykebab · 2019-01-22T05:34:37+00:00

Get a job. Move out. See if your dad will help with your rental deposit and/or maybe the first 6 months of rent. Set up a repayment plan if necessary.

Morpheus_TNTB · 2019-01-22T05:51:28+00:00

It's Kalifornia son, RUN for your our life! There's nothing good left in that state.

chazthundergut · 2019-01-22T06:26:50+00:00

You are 18 years old. Time to spread those wings and fly the nest.

Get yourself a job and get the hell out of there

BluBlac59 · 2019-01-23T03:55:12+00:00

Always put physical and/or geographical distance between yourself and someone that's has already made false accusations. How safe do you think you will be without your father there ? Its be found the ability of Amy 18 year old to save one adult from another taxic adult. You need to save yourself first. Your aunt know the deal. I would advise joining the military to put the distance between you and her you'll get educational benefits and could even attend some community college classes. You'll get paid to save yourself and do some travelling and get some help with college. Don't look back.

thittle · 2019-01-23T14:39:49+00:00

Be like me and join the Air Force

You’ll have a nice life

SICFJC · 2019-01-22T00:50:00+00:00

Didn't read, time to leave the nest. It is easy unless you are weak then stay at home with toxic crap. But plenty of kids figure there shit out at 15.

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