Gf might have leukemia. I love her. She cheated on me for a bit early on. Not on good terms but leaving the bad stuff behind. What do I do?

TheDreadnought1 · 2017-10-11T12:49:31+00:00

Dude, every time you post about this relationship here, everyone will say: leave. Doesn't matter if she has leukemia, if you adopted a dog together or if she miraculously reversed 10 years in time and now is 28. And we say that because is the right thing to do, but your oneitis doesn't let you.

And either way, if you haven't followed this sub's advice after like 5 different posts in 3 months, then well, this is pointless. Do what the hell you want

nabosch · 2017-10-11T12:33:23+00:00

Say this isn’t going to work out like you should’ve done a long time ago. This is the last thing you need on your mind as a 25 year old. Drop her before she’s actually on her deathbed, it’ll be much easier.

quicklogaccount · 2017-10-11T12:47:03+00:00

This gives a whole new meaning to dedicating your formative years to a cheating withering woman, doesn't it?
Any chances you'll get her bucks once she goes?

I watched my mother die slowly 3 years ago.

Man, you'll get to watch your mother die TWICE.
Can I sell your plot to Shonda Rhimes? It'd fit Grey's anatomy well. She took you and took care of you when you were a waste because of your mother's death and you developed a bizarre relationship in which she craved for masculine attention but was somewhat attracted to you too, and when you broke out of the depression she became attracted.
I'd change it a little bit so she has caught HIV in another fashion (heroin shot that she doesn't want to tell you about) and you can't manage to believe it was just sexting. Your tests aren't positive but something hints there's an infection and maybe you're naturally immunosuppressed and doesn't have the tested anti bodies yet... That's season finale drama right there! She can kill a hot doctor or make one crush for you too.

What do I do?

Contact Rhimes, sell your plot. Tell girlfriend you don't see how you can be together anymore, not because of the disease but the break of trust.

chachaChad · 2017-10-11T12:49:27+00:00

been thru shit and doesn't know how to be in a healthy relationship.

As someone just said in another thread... "What do we not do with crazy?"

The cheating was only sexting.

Way to DEER this.

You don't owe her shit. Put on your own life vest and save yourself. She'll be fine (or she won't be) if you're there or not. You don't owe her shit.

What's your mom got to do with this? Are you signing up to watch someone else die slowly? Are you trying to recreate your trauma?

angryomlette · 2017-10-11T12:56:39+00:00

Having leukamia is not the end of her life, that is unless she has got stage 4 cancer. Based on what I see: you got 2 choices. 1. Hold on to her and betray yourself and waste the best time of your life with an added bonus of misery. 2. Leave her and live for yourself happily.

Juan-San · 2017-10-11T13:10:27+00:00

I do love her and care for her.

Aha

The cheating was only sexting.

That you know of. Also, it doesn't seem she loves you nearly as you love her, if she's willing to cheat, be it texting, pictures, fucking a random Chad, your best friend, or getting gangbanged. You don't disrespect the people you love.

I'm 25, she's 38, blah blah. Been together a year.

She's waaaay post-wall and you're about to reach your peak. Are you fucking insane?

We all die, in the end. It's part of what "she's not yours, it's just your turn" means. Save yourself the post-cheating drama and the I'm-going-to-die drama, while you're at it

RPShitlord · 2017-10-11T12:33:31+00:00

Over the wall, much older then you, cheater, with a terminal condition.

Leave now and find someone more suitable for a relationship. If you don't, it's scarcity, not love.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-10-11T13:19:57+00:00

You're dating a woman 13 years your senior. She cheated and it wasn't just sexting. Stop excusing her behavior. Ghost her. Her leukemia isn't your problem.

Entropy-7 · 2017-10-11T13:56:14+00:00

Sexting was cheating? And you love her.

If I was dating some tart and she was sexting other guys, there are two things: 1) WTF bitch, am I not enough you and 2) WTF me, am I not enough for her?

BUT IT IS NOT ACTUALLY CHEATING.

Internally, you have to ask yourself those two questions, confront her with the answers and decide for yourself.

I will give you two anecdotes from my own live. You will have to draw your own wisdom from them.

Back in 1992 there was no such thing as online dating (the internet write large was just starting to take hold), so I did telephone dating: you leave a voice mail describing yourself, you listen to others and if you connect then you chit chat on the system and then share your real phone numbers (again, 1992 so no cell phones)

So, I click with a girl and then she disappears. She reappears a it later and says she has been struck down by a case of vertigo and is in the hospital. She gives me her hospital room phone number and I call her every day for two weeks and we talked for an hour.

It is so difficut to be concise, but other than her BPD I would have found my dream girl.

Second situation is that I was 34 and while cruising a kink-date-site a 18 year old approaches me. To cut the chase we ended up in a 2-/12 year relationship.

The thing was, she had Lupus and Fibromyalgia and her knees and hands would "flair". We were out shopping at one point and she had a "flair" so I carried her to the service desk where were got a complimentary wheelchair. So here I was, a 36 year old man wheeling about his 20 year old lover.

I could write a novel on this - and I can't give you enough background info to make any of this make sense - but the breaking point was that she did lesbian porn without my consent.

I found out about this, got liquored up, and then raised my voice to her about it.

Next day, she gave me my walking papers and I moved out because her ex was an abusive drunk. Now, I might be a drunk and I do horrible things to women, but only with their consent: nonetheless that was it.

Look mate, if you love her then you lover. Just don't go into orbit or get onitis out of this.

It WILL mess with your game if it comes up while you are trying to bag other birds.

If she has a good family, then just keep your distance. If she has a shit family then feel free to white knight in the classic sense

RepostGhostCst2Cst · 2017-10-11T13:46:03+00:00

Lol she's 38.... WTF are you doing?

Aktiv8r · 2017-10-11T12:43:33+00:00

Let her die alone, it'll be funny.

McVaghunter · 2017-10-11T12:53:57+00:00

What the fuck is happening here?! Lots of threads recently about love and LDRs and obvious trolls like "I'm 25 and she's 38", "I'm in love with my coworker" and "love love love" WTF?!

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