Approached a girl at the gym. No response from text. Everything's cool. Nexted and seeing other people. But fuck we go to the same gym.

_the_shape_ · 2017-05-13T09:22:09+00:00

Bring yourself to believe that this is, no question, a complete non-issue.

Remind yourself that you're a man, so when you see a girl you like, you approach; if it works, awesome, if not, no big deal and no hard feelings - all part of the game.

Bear that in mind, and ignore her from this point onward.

Docbear64 · 2017-05-13T08:51:58+00:00

Say something simple short , and sweet like " hey " then go through your routines. it's going to be a little awkward sure but if you keep going on living your life then so will she .

BPasFuck · 2017-05-13T10:43:17+00:00

Just to echo everyone else-- the best thing a guy can do is act like something is completely natural and normal.

The better you internalize it, the more effective it will be.

"This guy isn't being weird about it. I guess it isn't?"

I once knew a guy who straight up confessed in mixed company that he was into Golden Showers. His frame, and attitude were so rock-solid and natural when challenged about it that all these women went right along with it-- and all the rest of us chumps did too.

refusewool · 2017-05-13T09:06:31+00:00

This is why I oppose the idea that the gym is a good place to game girls. Do not shit where you eat.

I don't know about you, but I eat at the gym 5-6 times a week.

Ignore her and focus on your set.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-05-13T11:44:32+00:00

Yeah, just nod and move on. Don't bother trying to chit chat at all. She might try to reel u in on some nonsense talk. Just nod and proceed with your lifts.

Westernhagen · 2017-05-13T19:49:50+00:00

When I went to the "big giant franchise gym" I was there for a serious purpose. I worked out hard. BUT, I still approached women. Sometimes with success, leading to the bang, sometimes got shot down.

And you know what happened with the girls that either rejected me, or that I banged and then nexted, or that I banged and eventually dumped me? Did I stop going to the gym because I was ashamed to see them? Did I feel awkward? FUCK NO WAY. I gave them the "I know what you look like naked" smirk and went about my business.

What actually happened, more than once, was THEY stopped going to the gym. Perhaps it was "awkward" for them to see me. Perhaps they just went on with their lives. Perhaps their New Years Resolution wore off. I don't know, I didn't ask, I did not GAF.

YOU DO NOT EAT AT THE GYM. "Don't shit where you eat" means "don't jeopardize your source of food" - i.e., YOUR JOB. The gym is not your job. You pay them, they do not pay you.

Yes there are creepy guys at the gym who all the girls hate because they are low-value males with no game who are only there to try to pick up women. But that's not you, right?

STOP caring what girls who rejected you think. Approach more girls!

(I now go to a powerlifting gym where there's nothing but jacked sweaty dudes. Whether or not to approach women is a non-issue because there ain't none.)

tylertgbh · 2017-05-13T16:29:37+00:00

Girl's don't want to be bothered at the gym.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-05-13T19:14:15+00:00

What trp says about hamstering? Real trp guy have no time wondering about such question.

Is it too hard to be just nice? Greet her with smile and continue with YOUr life.

[deleted] · 2017-05-13T19:34:31+00:00

That's like every girl I know that's attractive.

I've flirted with all of them.

Lots have turned me down.

So what?

another-white-male · 2017-05-13T14:32:25+00:00

Don't shit where you eat idiot

Title	Approached a girl at the gym. No response from text. Everything's cool. Nexted and seeing other people. But fuck we go to the same gym.
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Date	May 13, 2017 8:30 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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