How do I deal with this frustration of not seeing men of my race doing well with women and not having any role models in regards to game? It has royally fucked up my inner game.

breeezzz · 2017-05-12T21:24:34+00:00

Dude, if you're awesome enough girls will ignore almost every flaw you think you have.

If you're jacked, have money, and have an exciting life you'll be able to pull whatever girl you want. It's a big mountain to climb, but it's possible.

I'm from Vancouver and have a bunch of Indian friends who slay. Mostly roided out drug dealer types, hah.

IVIaskerade · 2017-05-12T21:29:10+00:00

Because we both know that it's not actually the fact that you're indian. You are you, not all indian men. You're using that as a buffer against rejection.

You know how many ginger men one of my best friends has seen with "instagram fitness model" hot girls? One. He actually pointed it out because he found it so unusual. Does that stop him going out on the weekends with us and slaying pussy? Nah.

Your issue is that you're, for whatever stupid reason, thinking that it's because indian men don't do well generally there's no hope, when instead you should be realising that you're offering an exotic new experience. Focus on that.

JSizzl3 · 2017-05-12T21:42:10+00:00

Might need to change your location at some point, since Silicon Valley isn't exactly known as a hangout spot for pretty young things who give it up for free. Try researching other large diverse metro areas and see if your odds change for the better.

ppzhao · 2017-05-12T22:39:59+00:00

One thing I do see though: Indian guys with some really hot Indian girls.

bingobongo7000 · 2017-05-13T08:43:14+00:00

Indian shit every day, day in and day out...

7Fig · 2017-05-12T22:44:46+00:00

The white women is the unicorn to the brown brothers of reddit. I see these posts a lot on here and I understand your frustration.

Take a moment to realize how you see yourself; you label yourself as an "Indian Guy". This means they see you as an "Indian Guy". I know we are playing with semantics for a moment but hang in there with me.

The divide between couples isn't inherently racists, we choose like mates because it is easier. Living in the US means we are all part of this great melting pot and we are in the most tolerant country on the planet.

This is good news. Your chances of bagging the great white women are the highest simply because you are living in this great country. Remember dating across cultural lines means you will need to add a new facet to your personality. Throw away the "Indian Guy" personality and embrace the "American Guy". Step 1) Get some (or more) white friends. You will need to demonstrate that your SMV includes people of her race. Step 2) no more "Indian Guy". No tech support, don't fix your white friends computers, don't offer to cook curry, embrace the opportunity to just be one of the guys. Step 3) go out with your white friends and learn to mimic the behavior that attracts white mates. Then constantly approach white women with poise and grace.

A final note: Know that I am not suggesting you stop being "Indian". My suggestion is to open your mind to the idea that maybe you can be more than just "Indian" . Cheers.

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