[Advice] LTR of 2.5 years (1 year living together) pressuring for housework

redpillerrr · 2016-10-25T14:45:11+00:00

Tell her you're not doing that. Then tell her life isn't fair when she tries to vomit that 50-50 shit out of her mouth.

Always be willing to throw it all away within minutes. If she wants an equal partner, tell her to go out and find one because you're supposed to be better than that.

To be clear, you're not entitled to that. You earn that by making life your bitch.

I actually do chores around our place like trash or anything that requires heavy shit or tools, though. I don't want my gf doing manly shit.

AFPJ · 2016-10-25T16:20:15+00:00

She's been bringing up the "50/50" garbage lately

50/50? Does she pay 50% of all your shared bills, rent and food expenses? How about transportation and going out?

she tried giving me a list of chores to do while she was out, under the guise of "asking" for help.

Unless the answer to above was "Yes", what's stopping her from doing them? I ask this of you, as you should of her.

Assuming, of course, her list isn't "fix leaking sink, repair bedroom windows, change car oil" - because that's all you.

Might also want to bring up the fact that unless she wants to be your roommate instead of your girlfriend, she should be taking care of you in her own way, just as you take care of her in your own way, ensuring a mutually beneficial LTR

flaxeater · 2016-10-25T14:59:52+00:00

If you spend more time in market ~~ace~~ place work then there's no room for her to stand.

nightmancommeth · 2016-10-25T16:01:05+00:00

Own your shit bro. Buck up and keep your house clean. Not because she wants you to but because your not a total loser human being and like to keep a clean house.

stephcurryftw · 2016-10-25T17:20:56+00:00

So who pays the bills? Do you pay more than she does or is it about 50/50?

writewhereileftoff · 2016-10-25T17:30:28+00:00

Does she work? You moved in with her? More information needed.

Willow-girl · 2016-10-25T18:09:05+00:00

She's been bringing up the "50/50" garbage lately and I'm looking for advice to help get her to understand that I'm not a 50/50 kind of guy, there's enough of them out there

Just tell her this. Don't be stupidly passively-aggressive and pretend you forgot or were too busy, etc. That will only lead to resentment, and resentment will kill a relationship quicker than anything. Just tell her flat-out that you're not going to cook or clean, those are her jobs, and like it or lump it. Then she can make an informed decision whether she wants to stick with you or find a more accommodating partner.

Simple, no?

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-10-25T18:43:19+00:00

There is too much context left out. Do both of you work? Do both of you pay for all the bills 50/50? Do both of you have your own cars? If any of the above is not true, she has no claim to anything 50/50.

However, if SHE is the breadwinner and SHE is the one paying the bills, and you are living at her place, you already handed over your mancard and need to suck it up and do the chores.

nakedfarmerr · 2016-10-25T14:38:59+00:00

Lmao you dont have 2 minutes to throw away the trash?

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Title	[Advice] LTR of 2.5 years (1 year living together) pressuring for housework
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Comments	17
Date	October 25, 2016 2:30 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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