She's been on dates with other guys, what to do?

[deleted] · 2016-04-11T15:13:42+00:00

Oneitis. Go fuck other girls.

redpillat40 · 2016-04-11T15:14:13+00:00

Overreacting and over invested.

What is she to you? A plate? A FWB? Are you fucking anyone else right now?

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-04-11T15:16:01+00:00

Holy shit you have extreme oneitis. She played a simple shit test and you failed big time. You can't 'deal' with women controlling their sexuality, the same way they can't 'deal' with you regarding your commitment.

oleanderteabreak · 2016-04-11T15:16:22+00:00

I'm so fucking sick of it. No emotional investment, no respect for the other person.

Women tolerate this all the time. Find a way to do the same.

[deleted] · 2016-04-11T15:27:37+00:00

I think you done fucked this one up

nastynickdr · 2016-04-11T15:28:02+00:00

She is a plate and nothing more, treat her as such. You basically told this girl "Stop being a whore and ill commit to you". Thats not how it works. Yeah most girls sleep around nowadays, especially the attractive ones, and yes this sucks if you are looking for a ltr. But you cant control that, things are the way they are. You cant control her and what she does, but you can control you. And there are decent girls out there. No unicorns for sure, but decent girls, yeah. You just need to watch for the green and red flags. Keep increasing your smv so that when a decent girls comes around she will be attracted to you.

FrameWalker · 2016-04-11T16:05:20+00:00

EDIT: Am I overreacting? It's been 3 weeks but we've had a lot of intimate dates.

You had an expectation that came from your own perspective. The reality is that women and high value men have an abundance of options. Non-exclusivity is the default and unless you've agreed otherwise you're both seeing other people form the get-go. If this makes you feel strange, spin plates.

Get to a place where you have enough options that you won't fall for a girl before you've vetted her.

The girls that are worth being exclusive to will see less guys, put out less, and will often become exclusive to you when you start having sex. Hopefully this is because 1) she doesn't want to mess up her chance with you 2) you're by far her best option. However the general timeline is that it's casual for 2-6 months and then it become exclusive.

I think 6-12 months is better for seeing what kind of girl she is but it will be well over a year or two before you see the monster.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-04-11T19:59:32+00:00

You sound like a bitter baby because she has more opportunities than you.

Title	She's been on dates with other guys, what to do?
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Upvotes	2
Comments	19
Date	April 11, 2016 3:00 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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