Need Help ASAP!

opening_eyes · 2016-02-12T00:58:15+00:00

Everyone else has said any advice i would offer about the relationship. .. but your career? You act like there is only one job for someone with a chemistry degree, and that you have it and it sucks. There are companies all over the world from meaningful nonprofits to gigantic inhuman megaprofits that need chemists. And fuck chemistry, any job needing someone with a technical ability (which is actually what your degree says), from investment banking to Google to b2b sales to marketing departments could be an area for you. Maybe talk to a recruiting agency.

Your decision to go to dentist school sounds less like a passion and more like "an easier, more profitable way to become a doctor." Guess what, you will be miserable there, too.

vandaalen · 2016-02-11T21:20:01+00:00

This is a blessing in disguise breh. If you guys can't plan a wedding together, you shouldn't be getting married.

You are engaged. Your balls are hers now.

JinSantosAndria · 2016-02-12T18:29:31+00:00

Look at you and your frame. You sound like a bitter and old person, complaining at every opportunity he gets, negating any kind of responsibility, trying ignore stuff rather then challenge them. You let yourself go, now fucking go change it. You gave a women a budget for your wedding, that's ridiculous. You complain about your job like an old, depressed man that fears any kind of change to his miserable, daily routine.

Right now it would best to pause this red flag ridden thing, because there is no frame you can hold onto.

SureImShore · 2016-02-11T21:32:44+00:00

She then texts me saying that she should't be the only one having to apologize all the time

Whoever is acting in the wrong is the one who should apologize. It has nothing to do with equality or balance.

I should care more if I was to loose her

You should not care at all if you were to lose her. She should care about losing you.

the ball is in my court now and that isn't going to talk to me until I call her and tell her why I love her and that she means a lot to me

Do not do this under any circumstances. If you feel you disrespected her and feel remorseful for that, tell her. But be ready for a massive shit test; any sign of weakness or apology to a woman is like blood in the water for a shark. She will turn this one tiff into a referendum on your relationship, try to get you to apologize for everything and accept her every demand. Just repeat that your sorry for x, but that is all you're sorry for.

I don't want to loose her, I have invested a ton into her and I do love her but things have been going downhill since the engagement.

Own this and tell her. I care about you very much but I have been very unhappy since our engagement. It makes me question whether marriage is right for us.

Don't let her think that slipping the ring on her finger means, "you're the boss of me now and you get to run the show." Fuck that noise. An LTR is TRP on hard mode. Marriage is TRP on Legendary with no shields. As she gains more investment from you, your frame and game must improve as well.

ControversialAcc · 2016-02-12T00:00:03+00:00

Just recently got engaged to a girl who I had dated for a year. Met in school.

RED FLAG

I have been complaining

RED FLAG

So I have been venting to her

RED FLAG

you are right, I REALLY need to stop complaining and bitching to you. That is not what the man should do. I will stop doing that

RED FLAG

What do I do?

Leave her.

69LUVS2SPWGE69 · 2016-02-11T22:32:49+00:00

While I do partially agree with that, I feel like this is more of an example of me having lost some of my footing over the course of the relationship. I realized I failed a shit test by letting her get to me by her hanging up and then disrespecting me, when I should have just ignored it all together. But I need to know some opinions on how I fix the situation and move on. I can work on gaining my footing back later.

purecyse · 2016-02-11T22:12:11+00:00

If your woman has the BALLS to hold her ground based upon her "principles" then what the f**k is YOUR problem?

You're worried about losing her? She's so worried about losing you that she has actually made silly demands for you to "win" her back. Damn near holding herself hostage as you give her more and more commitment AFTER knowing she was sleeping with other people and you when you first met?

Your thoughts should be about how she's going to miss out ON YOU!

Title	Need Help ASAP!
Author	69LUVS2SPWGE69
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	February 11, 2016 9:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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