How many guys a girl has slept with... how much til it becomes a red flag?

Axoc · 2015-03-19T23:53:34+00:00

You ever seen Clerks, OP?

It's fine if a woman is in her late 20's and has only had sex with 3 guys, by most people on this sub's standards.

What you gotta watch out for is 3 guys that she's actually fucked means about 37 dicks that she's actually sucked.

SelphImprovement · 2015-03-20T00:28:08+00:00

A good rule could be: starting at age 18, 1 dick or less before you. Then add one dick every 2 years. So at age 20 she could have already had 2 dicks, 22, 3 dicks, 30, 7 dicks, etc. That shows she is LTR focused, if she's averaging a dick or less every two years, and can control herself from not hooking up with random guys.

StarDestinyGuy · 2015-03-20T00:40:32+00:00

I don't have any hard or fast number. If it's a red flag, my brain knows it's a red flag, i don't have to think about it and analyze it.

The girl I'm in a LTR with now? She's 20 years old, 3 guys before me. Perfectly fine.

One girl I was with as a FWB? She's 20. 17 guys before me. Not LTR material.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-03-20T05:42:03+00:00

You honestly don't want to know. It will gross you out how much cock the average decent looking chick gets slammed with. It's not useful information, and she's not likely to tell you the truth, because for her to utter the number out loud would be enough to actually invoke and summon a demon from hell right in front of her, which will then need to be exorcised or destroyed.

Are you an experienced demon hunter? Do you keep holy oil and incense and know the Latin mass? No? Then be careful. Asking a woman's actual number is playing with forces that can bring about the end of the world. But seriously - knowing the truth serves no purpose, and will only gross you out. Some things are better left in the dark depths, where sunlight will never shine on their hideousness...

Billybob25112 · 2015-03-20T07:21:35+00:00

Listen here. Eliminate long term relationships from your head as a goal. Your only purpose from now on will be plates. Even if you find a girl who you think will be perfect for an LTR tell her you're not ready for a relationship yet.

A plate will be much more honest about her n count because she won't see you as a long term prospect as long as you don't present yourself as one (I can't stress how important this is) so she won't care. She'll still lie but the number will be much closer to the truth. And besides, you don't find a girl's n count by asking her about it, you manipulate her into giving away tells that point out flaws in her character. By framing the relationship as a casual one you ensure her honesty, at least some semblance of it.

Start asking her if she likes to party whilst being very enthusiastic about the party scene, tell her about that one time you hooked up with two chicks at the club and brought them home etc. Lie if you have to, it doesn't matter. She'll start telling you stories herself, probably filled with half truths and such, but you can piece together the bigger picture quite easily. Also, never ignore your gut. It's rarely wrong.

After a couple of months of plating look at your newly formed harem and pick one. Start doing stuff with her and eventually things will fall into place. Never be the one to suggest a relationship, let her do that. Your goal will be to subtly communicate to her that you see her as more than a plate, she'll do the rest if she feels like it.

The key word here is subtlety. Never communicate something to a girl overtly.

[deleted] · 2015-03-19T23:58:20+00:00

they'll all tell you they have only had five guys in their lives. thats how many they have had that month.

Martelll · 2015-03-19T23:27:18+00:00

I'm pretty particular about that, 5 Dicks or less. I haven't dated a woman over 26. I'm 31.

[deleted] · 2015-03-20T02:11:36+00:00

I think it's more of the quality of guys that she sleeps with, how easy she sleeps with men.

It doesn't bother me if I find out about a guy that a girl has slept with, but I know him, or of him, and that he's a decent guy, and they were together a while, and they were in love etc.

It bothers me if she used to party a lot in college and sucked off some guy that she met, or barely knew, just because he was on a sports team or was 6'5''.

Obviously you can't rack up a huge count if you're the Type A girl, while the Type B girl probably would tell you 8, but it would actually be 16 full on fucks, and another 20 that fingered her or she blew etc that don't really count.

As a ball park estimate I'd go with 5. for say age 23. High School Boyfriend, early college boyfriend, broke up with the early college BF and had a couple of shallow short relationships and then a late college after college relationship.

However, there's no real point in considering this. They aren't going to tell you the truth, and you're not going to believe them. Pay attention to how they act, how they dress, how their friends act, if they had party days, if they're very easily swayed and open about being attracted to physically attractive dudes etc. It really is not that difficult to spot slutty women.

Cyralea · 2015-03-20T00:53:45+00:00

You guys out there saying 3-4 guys by age 23, Ya'll are living in some kind of fantasy land. If an attractive 23 year old has only slept with 4 dudes, you can guarantee she has some serious sexual hang ups.

swoleo_dicaprio · 2015-03-20T15:52:54+00:00

You guys are nuts to care about her numbers. It's a sucker's game. For one, they NEVER tell you the truth. For another, the numbers vary on context: where you live, etc.

But mostly it betrays your pedestalizing. You're asking, "is she good enough to be on my pedestal?" The answer is no. Awalt.

"Wahhhh but I want to know if I can trussst her!"

Don't think about whether you can trust people. Think about what motivates them. Girls are loyal when they're motivated to keep you. Whether she's had one dick or twenty.

Title	How many guys a girl has slept with... how much til it becomes a red flag?
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Date	March 19, 2015 11:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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