I've never had a girl-friend (or a girlfriend) my entire life, can someone explain?

BoerMaakNPlaan · 2015-02-24T23:44:56+00:00

Because you didn't MAKE it happen. If you want a girlfriend you must make moves towards that. Nothing in life comes to those who do not act.

[deleted] · 2015-02-25T00:15:46+00:00

I never acted on it because I was kind of shy

Basically answered your own question

but even when I wasn't shy and I talked to girls, a friendship NEVER formed.

Did you ask them to hang out? Probably not.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-02-25T02:11:23+00:00

Sounds like you're a MGTOW type. There's nothing wrong with it, and you're not crazy or weird. There is still plenty you can learn here that has nothing to do with women.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-02-24T23:57:56+00:00

You want us to analyze your life?

FinnianWhitefir · 2015-02-25T01:17:35+00:00

It took a year of therapy for me to realize how many assumptions and motivations and learned behaviors were buried deep inside my mind and weren't really "known" to me. It took an objective third party sitting there querying me and forcing me to validate my actions and review my reasons, to even understand why I choose to do things.

When you see something that the vast majority of people in the world do, and you have never done it, it helps to have someone trained in digging into that sit down and review it with you.

IronBallsOfKnowledge · 2015-02-25T01:58:45+00:00

If you really didn't want to be having relations with girls why would you be on TRP? For knowledge, okay I guess. But why would you ask a question like this?

It's a primal urge in our nature to want to get laid. You may not want a girlfriend, but your body wants to bust a nut in a girl whether you like it or not. Of course we're cognizant and wrap our tool to not have kids and just enjoy sex, but we always have that natural urge to spread our seed.

Now, in your case it is one of a few possibilities.

1: You're a beta. You lack the social skills to get women comfortable and you probably aren't that attractive.

You are somewhat attractive but don't have the social proof to become associated with girls. Girls want to hang out with the high value guys. If you have friends who are good looking, throw parties, and are fun to be around, the girls will flock.
You just don't do anything about it. You're good looking, you're friends are cool but you just don't give a shit about girls. (Which is kind of an oxymoron cause that generally attracts girls as well)

I'd wager that a) you're not that attractive. and B) Your friends aren't that "cool".

The question you have to ask yourself is, "What can I do to get in the social circle all the girls are in?"

And the answer isn't to win over the girls. Oh no. You ignore them and do your thing. But the answer is to win over the guys. You have to get in with them before you get in with the girls. If the guys think you're chill, they'll bring you around and hang out with you. But that is only if you bring value. Are you funny? Do you have parties? Do you bring anything to the table other than taking from their value?

So there. If you really want some social proof and have a lot of girl friends, try and get in with the alphas who the girls want to be with. From there you'll have access to PLENTY of girls and you can choose your road from there. Just bring something to the table. Set up some events. Get people together for the beach. Or to go out of town, to concerts, whatever. You can't just expect to get in the group without giving value.

oldredder · 2015-02-25T04:53:54+00:00

You lack social skills and won't step out of your comfort zone.

Irony: after all my girlfriends I wish I could erase most of them from my history, re-write my timeline where I dated less, fucked more or just did something else entirely. I've had enough relationships go wrong I have no intention of starting another ever again. Zero-attachment sex only.

Title	I've never had a girl-friend (or a girlfriend) my entire life, can someone explain?
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Comments	13
Date	February 24, 2015 11:39 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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