Ex-LTR is quite possibly pregnant and I don't know how exactly to handle the situation.

BrunoOh · 2014-12-01T12:09:53+00:00

I doubt she's actually pregnant. This is manipulation of the vilest sort; she's trying to manipulate you into taking her back. The valid response is to return the manipulation. Apply the "Hail Mary"; Take her back. Explain to her that you do love her and want a kid, family, bla bla bla, but not right now as you're both in school. Buy a cheap ring and propose to her. Take her to the abortion clinic and make sure the abortion goes through or verify that she is lying about her pregnancy. Dump the bitch and go No Contact.

Oh, and under no circumstance give in to the "We might as well do it raw now", because that's going to get her pregnant if she wasn't already.

I don't want to have a kid grow up in a broken household. I feel beta when I say I don't want to hurt her feelings too badly.

Work on your inner frame.

1) Women cannot become pregnant against their will.

2) If 1) fails, a women cannot bring a child to term against her will.

3) You cannot prevent a woman from becoming pregnant and birthing a child.

4) Therefore a pregnancy/carrying a child to term is completely the woman's choice.

5) As it is only her choice, the responsibilities are also hers (read: not yours).

vandaalen · 2014-12-01T12:10:13+00:00

Firsr of all wait until the result gets approved by a gynecologist. This wouldn't be the first time there was a false alarm. Also demand to see the actual result in written form. This would also not be the first time there is a desperate attempt to tie a man down.

If it turns out to be fact, your further procedure depends heavily on your ex amd you. If she is at least in an average mental condition and you still have a friendly way of communicating with each other, it's still possible to raise a child in a healthy way without actually living together.

I'd tie this to certain things though, the first and most important being, that she agrees to shared custody. If you appear to be living in Europe, things are in your favour, since shared custody is the default state, and she would have to sue for sole custody, which she won't get unless you are not executing your rights, you two are on such bad terms, that you are unable to make proper decisions in the benefit of the child, or you are actually acting abusive.

I'm heavily pro-life, if your situation is like that and would advocate for taking your responsibility. You knew there would be a chance this could happen, since no protection is 100%.

A child changes everything and it's such a great experience, that differs from anything else, that I would fail when trying to explain it to you.

If she's bat-shit crazy though, my advice would be: 'Run nigger, run.'

[deleted] · 2014-12-01T15:29:26+00:00

Absolutely the first thing you do is insist on going with her to a doctor to get it confirmed, and insist that you be present during the entire checkup and while getting the results. If it's bullshit (quite likely, this shit has been pulled on me not once, but twice), you'll never make it through the doors of the doctors office before she will tell you "false alarm, i got my period!".

If she is, indeed, pregnant, then you'll have some deciding to do.

oldredder · 2014-12-01T11:59:52+00:00

Shaggy: i' wasn't me

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fnordsnord · 2014-12-01T18:12:53+00:00

Sign nothing until the DNA test is positive.

Soultrane9 · 2014-12-01T20:31:50+00:00

Did you cum inside her without protection?

Title	Ex-LTR is quite possibly pregnant and I don't know how exactly to handle the situation.
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Date	December 1, 2014 11:36 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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