Solo flight

tombreck2 · 2014-10-10T17:44:29+00:00

1) Go out because you want to do it; not because you feel like you should

2) Pick a place where you will be in the top 20% Avoid clubs, lounges and places with $10+ drinks. Neighborhood bars, dive bars and live bands playing are your best bet

3) When I go home at night after being rejected a bunch of times it feels good. Just knowing that I went out and approached made me feel a sense of pride even if I didn't land any numbers

silvercreek · 2014-10-10T17:43:54+00:00

I do this sometimes. It's quite easy. Just sit at the bar and enjoy yourself, you can play with your phone but make a conscious effort to be mostly focused on your surroundings. You will quickly make "friends" with the people sitting around you. While doing this you can scope out the venue for females. From there, you'll need to cold approach. As TRP would say, as long as your SMV is high enough you should be successful. Good luck!

fyseaking · 2014-10-10T17:45:45+00:00

Hell yeah you should. How else do you expect to gain experience?

Some tips (these are on the sidebar so read that shit if you haven't already but alas):

The first and foremost most important part of cold approaching is to become desensitized to rejection.

Go out there and enjoy the failure. Really. You aren't going to learn that by reading, and there's nothing wrong with going solo.

The worst that could happen is some girl going "eww, no". To which you picture her as a child (remember, treat women as one). You shrug this off like you don't give one damn, leave and start looking for the next girl that catches your attention.

Just say what you want, it really doesn't matter. The most important part is to hold frame, never take back what you say. Doesn't matter if you accidentally let out the word "nigger" from a joke, hold your posture and eye contact. No matter how awkward it is if you have nothing to say silence is powerful just let her break the silence first. Do not be the first one to break it and don't apologize. Because you'll be seen as beta and she won't respect you since it means you're caving to the pressure.

Can't think of anything else right now but those are the basics.

tangman · 2014-10-10T19:39:56+00:00

I used to. Just go have fun. Get out of the pick-up mindset where you are "cold approaching". Meet people, make friends. Everyone is there for the same reason (to have fun, meet others). Seriously, just have fun.

Think of it this way, in any social circle there are "insiders" and "outsiders". You think of it as "cold approaching" because you feel and behave like an outsider. Act like it's your party. I mean, it'd be a faux pas if you didn't meet your guests. Indicators and opportunities to escalate will arise naturally.

Title	Solo flight
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Date	October 10, 2014 5:28 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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