My girlfriend got out of hand: my reaction

lonGterMgoalS · 2014-09-14T20:06:49+00:00

Your girl sounds like she's either an alcoholic or immature and doesn't know how to hold her liquor.

I don't know what kind of wedding you were at but I'd want my woman to be the classiest one there. Not the embarrassing drunk.

Mr_Reardon · 2014-09-14T20:38:28+00:00

Lack of accountability = not good. Lack of accountability fueled by alcohol = even worse. When you're in a relationship you represent not only yourself but your partnership, and if she thinks so little of your coupling that she represents it like a booze fueled idiot, I'd be going my own way.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2014-09-14T22:07:43+00:00

This is typical alcoholic behavior. Alcoholics (or any kind of addicts) have a really hard time dealing with conflict productively. Especially internal emotional conflicts.

So instead, they get drunk and then lash out against others.

Over time, this causes them to develop self-fulfilling beliefs that they're unworthy and people will eventually abandon them. Or possibly these beliefs already existed and are only amplified by alcohol. As we know, people tend to work to make their beliefs into reality. In your GF's case, to work to destroy your respect and to push you out the door.

Either way....

As a red pill man you should know better than trying to fight against these kind of inner beliefs in anyone else.

You should, in fact, give her exactly what she really wants and expects deep down, which is to be rejected.

This is the truly compassionate thing to do. Remember alcoholics actually want to ruin their lives and die young. Because doing so gives them satisfaction and makes their lives seem consistent.

Eventually they either succeed, or get tired of failing at it and change their beliefs.

[deleted] · 2014-09-14T22:31:37+00:00

Why do you lock yourself down with someone so immature and undeserving of your valuable time? I blame you for continuing to be committed to her.

kempff · 2014-09-14T20:47:30+00:00

I'm sure you know the general attitude among redpillers towards LDRs.

I can't speak for Red Pill, but my own common sense says Next her. Because if you don't, her drunk behavior is going to be the story of the rest of your relationship.

Think about it this way: If you had a choice, wouldn't you rather have a gf who is not a drunk idiot basket case whom you have to corner into apologizing every time she says or does something out of line?

Wouldn't your life be easier, simple, and more peaceful without her pipelining all that garbage into your tranquil world?

Replace her, I say.

throwaway-aa2 · 2014-09-15T00:06:53+00:00

What would be the Red Pill thing to do?

Hold her responsible for her actions? She doesn't get a free pass? You decide the consequences based on how drastically the behavior needs to be punished. It's no different than disciplining a teenager. She gets out of line, there are repurcussions.

You can't enforce this if you have Oneitis though, that's the catch. You need to have the attitude that you can next her at any time, and I think that's your problem. She basically has set the precedence to walk all over you. What are you going to do about it? Be a pussy, or be a man?

RedPillington · 2014-09-15T00:34:05+00:00

everybody likes apologies so long as they are earnest and are followed by a corresponding change in behavior.

why go through the trouble of being with that bitch?

she will fuck someone else if she hasn't already.

Title	My girlfriend got out of hand: my reaction
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Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	September 14, 2014 7:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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