Is it normal to constantly find things wrong with girls you date?

etcomro · 2014-08-25T19:37:25+00:00

It's normal, but not healthy. She's going to have faults. The 'alabaster girl' or perfect girl you seek only exists in your head. I think all men have this girl in our minds. But I think she's expressed in many different ways through many different women. Accept her for her flaws(if they are acceptable) and don't get so anxious about marriage.

AlphaAsFAQ · 2014-08-25T23:38:45+00:00

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AFPJ · 2014-08-25T20:00:49+00:00

Seeing other people's shortcomings is both normal and healthy - the choice of whether to put up with them or not is too subjective for an objective discussion. In the West, it's possible all the girls you date are terrible human beings.

TheRealMewt · 2014-08-25T20:04:36+00:00

You gotta realize that nobody is perfect. It's fine to find flaws in anybody, but it's important to weigh them against their good personality traits. In the end, you have to decide for yourself what you want in a woman and what you're willing to accept from them.

Mr_Reardon · 2014-08-25T23:28:34+00:00

While settling for something or someone is never a good thing, if your line of thinking is extreme enough it's stopping you from having a good time with a person and enjoying them for their positive traits, yeah, it's getting unhealthy. If you spend more time looking to trade up than being happy in the moment, dude, you're selling your life experiences short.

It's possible you just haven't met anyone who truly trips your triggers, but it's also possible there's some fear and insecurity creeping into your thought process. Something like you're missing out on a glorious future by picking the present. Hypergamy - it's a male thing too.

dailyandroid · 2014-08-25T19:39:58+00:00

Im curious, can you cite some specifics? What are some flaws that you are finding about your current girl that you didn't immediately see before?

intelcorei5 · 2014-08-26T01:00:34+00:00

Noticing flaws is key to avoiding pedestalization. Make a habit of it, but never vocalize it.

SloppyPenguinSalad · 2014-08-26T01:45:07+00:00

http://youtu.be/r1tCAXVsClw

this is a video of a guy explaining the superficial flaws you can put up with in a LTR and how you can look past it.

asd1100 · 2014-08-26T15:48:13+00:00

If she doesn't fit my perfect image of a girl, it eats away at me.

that is a fucked up issue, date girls for what they can offer and enjoy it, don't have expectations especially unreasonable blue pill expectations

It makes me think I'll never find a girl good enough to marry.

don't worry, there are a lot of bad girls and you'll just marry one of them if you are that determined to go into slavery.

I see a more attractive girl, all of a sudden I feel less close to her.

yeah there is a actual biological phenomenon that says strage is always more sexy.

[deleted] · 2014-08-25T21:03:12+00:00

Why not? They are constantly trying to find things that are wrong with you.

Title	Is it normal to constantly find things wrong with girls you date?
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Date	August 25, 2014 7:27 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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