Should I go for it?

PhantomDream09 · 2013-12-08T00:15:50+00:00

If you want an actual relationship with her, and you are able to get her to leave her current SO for you - then be wary. If she can be convinced to leave one SO, then there's a chance she can be persuaded to leave you as well. Furthermore, if she is currently 'taken', but that doesn't prevent her from flirting with you (and possibly other gentlemen) then that says something about her character as well.

If you are interested in a short term-fling, then your approach is simply to get physical access to this woman...but you seem to want a long-term relationship with a solid foundation, and that means going about things differently.

I would also urge you to be cautious when labeling a woman a unicorn. Being young and a virgin is not all that uncommon. Nor is being smart with a potentially bright future and looking attractive. To me, that sounds like any number of (possibly) good young women. Just make sure you aren't placing her on a pedestal, and look at the facts. You have mentioned a few behaviors that would seriously make me question her overall moral fiber and sense of loyalty.

Sorry if this doesn't really help you directly, just some thoughts and observations I wanted to share.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2013-12-08T01:35:06+00:00

Keep in contact with her. But be aloof and DGAF. Be ambiguous. Never validate her or be too obvious that you're interested. again the fact that you didn't make a move and didn't try to kiss her might work to your advantage because she's probably still unsure how you really feel about her.

Be seen approaching and talking with other women. Especially get to know other women in your classes. Remember don't get caught in one-itis. Remember it is her job to qualify herself to you, not the other way around. You job is be a leader, be better than her, and tell her what to do.

There is a decent chance things wont work out with your current interest so keep as many plates up in the air as possible. Don't let the scenario bother you, rejection happens and you MUST not take it personally. All women are replaceable. Embrace an abundance mentality.

Use light kino when you talk to her. Tease her and bust her balls playfully whenever she tries to talk to you. Be sexually suggestive, but not overt.

Make sure she is contacting you slightly more and talking more than you are her

In other words, keep ratcheting up the dramatic tension.

complete_asshole_ · 2013-12-08T02:04:49+00:00

I'm diagnosing you with a terminal case of Oneitis.

LifterofThings · 2013-12-08T15:42:27+00:00

Wtf is wrong with people? So you dated her, then one of your "best friends" dates her, and now you want to steal her because he's "too much of a bitch to fuck her".

I have two pieces of advice for you:

Either you're a shitty friend, or this guy's a shitty friend, but either way you need new friends. It's not alright to try to sneak the D to a "best friend's" gf.
Fuck this broad or don't. It's a lose-lose though, as Phantom's already mentioned.

work-the-balls · 2013-12-08T19:40:32+00:00

That no unicorn... Just a regular. Where is your 'frame'?

That being said should you fuck her... How close is the friend? Would he appreciate knowing what is going on with her? If he is a good friend help him.

Regardless, sleeping with your friend's girls is desperate. Where the fuck is your head? Remember it's easy, you're just trying to hard. Spend more time enjoying and bettering yourself, woman love that shit.

Reddit_SLC · 2013-12-11T04:19:52+00:00

Just keep being your same kick-ass self and she will come to you. You can bait her a little, but don't go after her aggressively. Keep being an alpha and being awesome and she will come to you. At this point, you will have all the control, she will like you much more and you will get much more action.

jobs33ker · 2013-12-08T05:54:23+00:00

This post has beta written all over it, im sorry to tell you.

I didn't kiss her for the whole month that I was dating her due to that.

Well you should have, thats probably why shes with your friend now. Youre lucky hes also a pussy...

Plus the fact that youre relying on him leaving to give you a chance is just plain boring. Just man the fuck up and go after what you want man.

I still like the chick since she's a unicorn

Really, dude? Maybe you should graduate HS before you claim you've found "the one"

Title	Should I go for it?
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Date	December 8, 2013 12:08 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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