My understanding of trp may be wrong.

As far as I know trp is about being a man, get my own needs met and focus on myself. Be the captain of my ltr. Trp also says that I need to be dominant in bed.

In the past weeks I started to introduce talk during sex. For example during foreplay I would tell her how she was feeling my hands on her tights, my fingers on her underwear and how she was begging to put it inside her. She loved it so much that the following week she masturbated at home thinking about me. This because I focused on her pleasure.

For the last two weeks I wanted to focus on my pleasure. So I went full rough: treated her like a fuck doll. One time she stopped me almost crying and telling me I was absent.

Yesterday we talked at the phone and it popped up in the conversation that the previous night she was watching a kissing challenge youtube video and she almost touched herself to it. I was surprised. Asked her why. Drama followed. At last she confessed that she feels attracted to me a bit less because in the last two weeks I was absent in bed. She even told me I use her like an object and asked me not to use her.

What the fuck?