DABDA

bogeyd6 · 2017-06-23T12:16:02+00:00

Post is locked because this is /r/askmrp material.

rocknrollchuck · 2017-06-21T18:32:26+00:00

How to Deal with Apathy, Depression, and Lack of Motivation

anythinginc · 2017-06-21T15:38:19+00:00

If you are legit depressed then you need to talk to someone about it. Therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist...

Likely, it is just loneliness, ennui (boredom), and/or the lack of validation that a woman provides you (That's why guys go into monk mode right? To "dry out" on external validation until they meet some goals and become a little more self-actualized?)

If monk mode WORKED and you reached a few goals (fitness/career usually right?) and became more self-actualized then wherefore the depression?

If you went monk and didn't come out of it with some motivation then you should have at least picked up some nihilism (maybe you did, thus the ennui). Personally, I like a little nihilism. If nothing has intrinsic value then you can put whatever value on something you want--art, beauty, yourself, the smile of child, whatever.

Your OYS post from a 14 days ago is pretty heavy. Let's get this clear, you were in "Monk Mode" for like a couple weeks? That is barely a dry streak man. Or 9 months?

And you are still hung up on a girl from a year ago that you stole from her bf, and then she swung to another dude on you? That is not a woman worth beating yourself up over. Or was there someone more recent?

I can see you are not healthy man, but I don't know what it is going to take to get your head straight.

Tebulus · 2017-06-21T15:39:08+00:00

Its been ten days homie. So your most recent RP journey so far has been what, 17-21 days not including your bullshit lurking time? And so far you have gone into and out of monk mode and accomplished what exactly? Have you been diagnosed with depression or are you just empowering your feelings of sadness by wallowing in it?

My guess is paralysis by analysis and a real lack of of a purpose and hobbies. And go to a doctor you fuck to find out if you actually have a problem.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-06-22T04:32:15+00:00

I'm not eating very well. No meal preps etc. Even cleaning my place is a massive task. I'm taking all kinds of naps throughout the day.

Change that.

chick I ended things with when I went into monk mode. The thought of seeing her gives me anxiety.

Which is why I have not been convinced that monk mode is a good choice if your goal is a LTR. Classic avoidance of pain coming back to bite you later. You went into monk mode to avoid dealing with the pain of the break up- and since you avoided it, it's still there.

Title	DABDA
Author	Wel108
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	June 21, 2017 1:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6ilt00/dabda/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/dabda.198713 https://theredarchive.com/post/198713

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