Read a muh'fuckin book

Quarter_Century_Club · 2015-11-04T11:04:48+00:00

I like your writing style and want to hear how you turned your life and marriage around. I already know to brush my teeth and read.

What trauma opened you up to TRP?

handfulofnuts · 2015-11-05T02:41:37+00:00

I know the hygiene stuff seems too obvious, but I'm always amazed at how many expat guys I see here who are just atrocious. It stands out much more here than in the US, because people here tend to be so meticulous about their hygiene and appearance. So some people do need the advice.

Anyway, more about my story.

I've always been way too nice. Classic nice guy syndrome. And people have told me that for as long as I can remember. Case in point: when I was in grad school, there was this weird old man who used to hang around campus. He'd talk to me for 3 hours, and the whole time I'm fuming and pissed that he's taking up so much of my time but I'm too "nice" to say anything to him. My wife always gets up in arms when she thinks people are taking advantage of me being too nice. Of course, it's not them—it's me not drawing boundaries.

And so on. I was already starting to realize that I was too nice, needed to draw boundaries, etc., when I found TRP. Like I said in another comment, I found it while looking for advice on how to get my former affair partner back. Turns out I was too needy, had put her on a pedestal, all the classic mistakes. She wasn't having it and kicked me to the curb. Can't blame her.

At this point I had pretty much given up on ever having a decent sex life with my wife and wanted to either get this girl back or find someone just as hot and kinky as she was to bang on the side. You know, without getting dumped again. This city is full of hot women who don't give a fuck if you're married or not—affairs seem to be the norm here, almost expected—but I didn't want to go through the pain again.

But then as I started reading the TRP and MRP subs, I decided maybe I could turn things around with my wife. The stuff I was reading just clicked—looking back on a lot of events with my wife and other girls, things just suddenly made sense. So I started digging into the sidebar material.

Reading (or actually listening to) NMMNG was like a kick in the gut. I recognized myself in so much of what he said. MMSLP cleared up a lot of misconceptions I had about how things work. Again, things just clicked.

So I started working on my frame, initiating and not getting butthurt (still working on this), building a life away from the wife, dread, taking care of shit around the house, all that. I've been lifting since before I got dumped, I'm a fairly good-looking guy and my style is on point, I own a business that's poised to do very in the next few years, etc. What I was lacking was 1) being the man of the house and taking care of shit, and 2) dread. Especially dread.

I used to try to negotiate sex with my wife, and she'd end up breaking down in tears and say she was afraid I'd leave, and of course I'd back down, apologize, comfort her, and lie to her and tell her I'd never think about leaving. Sometimes duty sex would be had, sometimes not, and things would just stay the same afterward. Zero dread.

We go out fairly often with her coworkers. It's a fun group of people and there are a few really attractive women. I now make a point of talking to them, teasing them a bit, etc., and they eat it up. She eats it up too. There are two in particular she's given me shit about several times, and I always AM or A&A. She's said a few times recently, "you keep getting more and more attractive, are you going to leave me for X or Y?" Just don't give me a reason to, babe. wink

So our mini main event recently. It started with her giving me shit about the long walks I sometimes take in the evening. I've done this for the last few years, but only recently has it become a "problem" for her. We live near a fairly sleazy area and she thinks I might be spending time in the bars there behind her back—I'm not, but whatever. I held frame, teased her about it, etc., then things turned to "I don't like this new you. It's like all you want me for is sex." "Aw, come on. You're a great cook too." Shit-eating grin. She almost never cooks, doesn't really know how. I do almost all of the cooking because I like it and I'm pretty good at it.

Then, very seriously, "Are you sad you married me?" I'm thinking, "Well yes, sometimes," but I know I'm not ready to handle the storm that comes after. So I said, "Why are you asking me that? Do you think I'm sad I married you?" She whined a little, then said "You didn't answer the question." Response: "I don't consider it to be a question worthy of an answer."

Shocked look. Then a hint of a grin on her face. "I know I'm being crazy, I think you should just forget about everything I've said." I give her a big hug and a kiss on the forehead, then start going about the rest of my evening. Minutes later she comes to me, reaches her hand down my pants, and shortly after that we're in 69 and I'm eating her pussy and fucking her throat, and she's going crazy over it. Trying her best to control her gag reflex when normally she wouldn't think about trying to endure it for me. I come all over her face and tits, she comes hard too. That was Saturday evening. Sunday night I pounded the shit out of her, then again Tuesday. She's discovering that she loves getting pounded—she always thought it was too slutty/dirty and I was always "too nice" to push her boundaries. We'll probably fuck again tonight (Thursday), and I'll see if I can't swing Friday and the weekend too. This might be the best week we've ever had.

So there it is. Like I said, it's a work in progress. Sometimes I notice myself slipping back into old behaviors and have to give myself a kick in the ass and get back on the horse.

Trekneck · 2015-11-04T12:49:59+00:00

The sequel to this should probably be the "pants on the ground song." Also, download freakin Audible. For $8 a month you can replace country music and talk radio to/from work and expand your knowledge through the magic of non-fiction.

Title	Read a muh'fuckin book
Author	handfulofnuts
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Date	November 4, 2015 9:42 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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