so married almost 30 years, life long lifter, good job, plenty of non wife hobbies, wife is naturally pretty red pill I am pretty dominant but TRP has codified the philosophy pretty succinctly. One thing that keeps coming up is how to ask her a question while keeping in frame but not making it seem like i'm blaming her.

The clearest example I can think of is this. We do ballroom dancing, sometimes, when learning a new step she does something different that what I expect. Such as, I am trying to lead her to go straight and she turns.

My natural reaction is to ask "why did you turn"? Her response is , "I don't know and why is it my fault?"

She wants me to rephrase the question into something like, " what did I do that felt like a turn?"

But to me that seems submissive and not RP.

I'm starting to think that not asking her is the right thing to do.

What Says RP?