So we have friends coming over saturday afternoon to hang with us at our house. My wife mentions to me some other friends are coming up to nyc saturday for a friends bday and wanted to meet up.

So my wife asks me hey lets meet them early afternoon then come back home and meet up with our other friends who are coming by to our house.

Normal me would say sure honey and dread the thought of driving 45 min each way into the city and have to run home and entertain more people. I would do it begrudgingly.

So new me says no. Its too much , we already have people coming over and i am going to the gym in the morning. I won't have time , but if they want to swing by our place they are more than welcome to or if you want to go meet them go have a good time.

The wife says i dont like your tone of voice , they are our friends , we don't see them much. So i tell her , we invited people over Saturday and we have plans already. Doing all that in one day is too much. I also tell her i am working 2 doubles this week and i am not running around all day.

Nice guy jeff would do it all, please my wife , my friends and put myself on the backburner and run myself into the ground.

I hold frame and don't say a word. I wanted to apologize and say sorry for my tone of voice. I wanted to make it all better and say lets meet up with them. She was waiting for me to cave.

I don't cave, she gets her dinner ready , i grab a beer and a snack and we sit down to watch tv. It is pretty quiet between us. She is upset i can tell. I don't say anything.

30 min into watching our show she lays her arm across my chest and then grabs my hand. Like nothing ever happened. All i am thinking about is wow it really worked. I stood up for MYSELF for once , said no and guess what she was mad initially but eventually got overit. It felt great.

Did i handle this well? Any suggestions, opinions?