How do I keep from losing ground

theultmatecad · 2015-03-19T00:54:45+00:00

Reward good behavior. Tell her how hot she was earlier.

If she thinks now she is back in charge then you know exactly what to do....withdraw attention and increase subtle dread.

This cycle should be rinsed and repeated until it's the new normal

strategos_autokrator · 2015-03-19T14:05:57+00:00

What should I do now to keep from losing ground. I

You act without covert contracts. Reward the sex, and that is it, nothing more, you don't owe her anything, but are grateful for the good stuff in your life. Her giving you sex doesn't change your boundaries in any way, so stay strong.

The reason why this works is that women's shit tests are a form of covert contract. Covert contracts don't work for the person that has them, and all you have to do is ignore it for them to face that. You become the most honest and direct, you ignore the indirect unassertive stuff as if it doesn't exists.

n the recent past, when we have sex, she thinks her pussy is back in charge.

She can think whatever she wants. What does it matter? As long as YOU don't think she is in charge, you maintained frame, and won't slide back. Don't buy into her frame because you had sex.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-03-19T04:00:26+00:00

TLDR: Used Dread. Held frame. Wife initiated.

Some of those armies got to Baghdad pretty quick- it is often holding and defending the ground already taken that is the hard part.

Dev_on · 2015-03-19T12:56:27+00:00

yup. be more available when she's acting appropriately, be busy when she's not.

I hate to say it, but it's like training a dog. They don't know english, you can't talk to them or yell at them, you scratch their ear when they do what they are told, and you correct them when they shit on the carpet.

cegh · 2015-03-19T13:45:37+00:00

Reward her only after she has done something good for you. I recommend rewarding her by praising what she did. IE Tell her how sexy she was when you saw her drop the towel in the office for you. It will give her more confidence and make her think what other ways she can please you, plus she will find it fun.

If she ever uses sex as a weapon, you go cold to her. No hugging, kissing, no saying how much you love her etc She will learn that if you don't get sex, she won't get what she wants. But you don't be a baby about it. You just act like she is a stranger and not worth your time. Easier said than done, because she might try to frame you as being in a mood or different, but you aren't. Instead you reply with, "I don't know what youre talking about".

She will hamster that you aren't interested in her anymore, she will realise that if she doesn't provide sex, it's possible you will get it from somewhere else because all women think men think about sex all the time. Which means she is going to lose her resources she gets from you.

Women like to think sex is their weapon and they have control when they know how to use it. But that is bullshit, because compared to their bread knife, we have a battle axe. Our weapon is to walk away from the commitment and find a woman who will put out. If she can't please her man, in her mind and other women she has failed as a woman.

Pass the shit tests: agree and amplify. Pass comfort tests when they come around. Carry on with hobbies and working out. Have fun with her, she is your wife, don't let it be a battle. Try to enjoy the journey.

Don't refuse her sex ever. If you are too tired, she can give you a BJ. If she doesn't give you blowjobs, then you know you have more work to do.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-03-19T00:56:07+00:00

She will test boundaries, push your buttons and try to shit test you whenever she can. Just remember that you're the man, and she will only get away with what you allow her to get away with. You're the prize, not her.

jamoni22 · 2015-03-19T03:20:45+00:00

Change nothing. You've been doing it right.

Title	How do I keep from losing ground
Author	over60_stupid_loner
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	March 19, 2015 12:37 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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