I've just begun TRP recently, but unlike some, it was inspired through my desire to be more effective in my career. I found that as I've progressed into leadership positions, my resolve has not always been as strong as it should be. I can already see some benefits unfolding.

My sexual relationship with my wife is a challenge because (as is the case with many who turn to TRP) we do not have the quality of sex that I would like. Like many, frequency ebbs and flows. Unlike many, however, I do not know that she's ever had a sex drive to be awakened. she was a virgin when I met her and had only kissed 2 guys. She has never masturbated and is turned off by the idea of doing so (same with viewing porn). She has never engaged with coworkers in discussing guys that are "hot." PIV does nothing for her, but she can be brought to orgasm through clitoral stimulation. There's more detail, but you get the picture...

I've looked carefully for shit tests, but she doesn't throw many at me. she really trusts my leadership, but it's been a challenge to push this into the bedroom. If I press her or state that we need to have more sex, she will do it willingly, but she simply doesn't enjoy it... It takes significant effort for her to get into the right frame of mind. I've tried everything from long massages beforehand, to just taking control and being dominant. There have been mixed results, but I'd say most of it is negative. It's as if that part of her is dormant and always has been; she just can't let loose and enjoy herself. This is how the cycle goes... I stop enjoying the sex with her and the effort it requires when she's not into it (even when she tries). I stop initiating. She doesn't miss it, I approach with new-found resolve to make it work. We have more sex, but the quality generally remains the same.

She and I are both physically fit. We do have 2 kids under the age of 4, and we are both in our early 30's. I would like to hear from someone who's been in a similar situation. Again, I hear about women who had a strong drive, lost it for a period of months/years, and then regained it; But I have not heard of situations when there was not much to begin with and then it was awakened. That's what I'm trying to figure out.