I recently made the decision to leave my job and start my own business. I’m still 6 months out, because while I’ve decided to do my own thing, I wanted to transition out of my current job properly.
It was something I was going to do regardless of my wife’s opinion, so I never asked, just decided. I told her after I filed the first round of paperwork and have been hit with “It hurt me that we didn’t talk about this before you made up your mind,” and “Am I such a terrible wife that you didn’t want to talk to me about this?”
As a part of this transition, I’ve been taking on fewer responsibilities at home during the week. For example, I used to help clean up the kitchen after dinner. Now, most nights I head down to my office and work until it’s time for bed. At first, this was met with increased shit testing. Finally in the last two weeks, she’s learned the STFU, but a new behavior has developed.
Now, whenever I help around the house she “rewards” me sex and compliments about how grateful she is. While I’m not complaining about this new behavior, it’s clear she’s trying to entice me to return to my old level of help by conditioning me to expect sex. It’s a weird twist on chore play, where’s there actually more sex on the other side of the chores.
I take no issue with the sex, but I’m not sure if the wife is blatantly trying to manipulate me or if this is her seeking additional comfort? If she is trying to manipulate me, what should the next steps be?