I secured my LTR after discovering the red pill. As such, I entered that relationship in a way where I had pretty much all the power in the relationship.
The problem is that she was anxious as fuck. Constantly comfort-seeking. She never shit-tested. She never got angry at me. She only got sad, upset, hurt, insecure and more neurotic. That is obviously not a fun person to live with.
As I reduced dread, while maintaining an outcome-independent frame, the relationship improved and I actually enjoyed being around her again.
However, occasionally, she becomes less compliant, more lazy, works out less, does less sexual favors, etc..
What do you do when your LTR can't seem to handle dread? When the dread isn't translating into increased sexual desire but is instead translating into neuroticism, anxiety, and depression.
Are there different types of dread you use in this situation?
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