What to do when LTR can't handle dread?

BobbyPeru · 2018-09-16T04:44:29+00:00

As I reduced dread, while maintaining an outcome-independent frame, the relationship improved and I actually enjoyed being around her again.

You need to be more specific here. How exactly did you “reduce dread?” You should only be practicing passive dread, and it should never stop. My gut feeling is you are misunderstanding dread.

Rian_Stone · 2018-09-16T01:45:32+00:00

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Countpudyoola · 2018-09-16T12:29:33+00:00

So , when you were single and knowledgeable about rp, why did one lone single ltr plate win the prize?

Plating is a vetting process... and if you didn't vet properly then why be surprised.

If the issue really is her and not you... then next her and pick better .

jacksarmy · 2018-09-16T09:59:39+00:00

You could break up with her

BluepillProfessor · 2018-09-20T01:22:22+00:00

If she is putting out there is no need for dread above level 5- active dread is only for women playing hide the vagina.

Being in shape, dressing up, keeping busy, having a plan and being a good captain is all that is needed. This is passive and is part of being a whole actualized person that is attractive. Despite what they tell us it is not supposed to be hard.

I have found comfort tests are easy- to pass if you really care but very difficult if you dont.I

If you care show her. How would you comfort a 9 year old who is whining for.attention? Baby talk is optional but they love it, if you mean it. If you don't they hate it because they know.

screechhater · 2018-09-16T09:53:44+00:00

You have a few items intertwined in your understanding of frame, OI, your mission and dread.

Most importantly, you don’t get that your applying too much pressure in areas that do not require pressure regularly that eventually blow up in your face, then you will be dumped and she will talk about you beating the control freak.

BTW, you should chill the fuck out and really she what you are intvolvrd with in this LTR, especially if she is broken or damaged goods

I’m not stating get lazy, I’m stating evaluate for value

psychosis2020 · 2018-09-17T08:01:51+00:00

... I had pretty much all the power in the relationship.

The problem is that she was anxious as fuck. Constantly comfort-seeking. She never shit-tested. She never got angry at me. She only got sad, upset, hurt, insecure and more neurotic. That is obviously not a fun person to live with.

The power dynamic / balance in any relationship and especially a LTR is in a constant state of flux. People need to realise that attraction and comfort are inversely proportional to each other. A lot of people want to be Chad in an LTR but they don't realise that when typical Chad's get in an LTR; one they usually don't last and secondly the women is probably displaying all the above behaviours and not that much fun to be around.

Chad just doesn't give a fuck or probably spend that much time with her. The only exceptions to this will be extremely submissive women (and then they may just not show external manifestations of these thought processes) and whilst all women will typically respond to male dominance it will be to variable degrees, ever shifting and she has a lot of backup to buck against due to main stream feminist thinking and propaganda.

However, occasionally, she becomes less compliant, more lazy, works out less, does less sexual favors, etc..

LTR / marriage is game on hard mode it requires work and calibrating attraction / comfort on a constant basis unless you truly have OI then why not just next her (but you say your not ready why?) and realise that if you want to have constant compliance and no complacency then it will be easier doing this with plates. Your gonna struggle getting someone to be your best friend, soul mate and totally compliant sex slave as you seem to desire.

What do you do when your LTR can't seem to handle dread? When the dread isn't translating into increased sexual desire but is instead translating into neuroticism, anxiety, and depression.

On this comment firstly lets talk sexual desire even with dread it isn't going to be 100% all the time, women generally don't desire sex as frequently as men (t-levels and all that) and can change throughout the month. What time period are we talking and what is the change in desire?

Women are generally more passive when it comes to sex and respond to stimulus my SO even when we first got together it was always me that initiated (2 / 3 times a day) and she never initiates now I just take what I need. You can get in your head that she is desiring sex less but is it that you are thinking about what she is thinking / feeling and initiating less as a result? I'm sure there are guys on here that think applying some dread and the women will be forever waiting for them in lingerie on her hands and knees every time he comes home from work.

Your comments on her neuroticism, anxiety and depression seem to imply you are trying to work out how she is feeling (hopefully not trying to fix / white night?). This is going in to her frame and she will consciously or subconsciously recognise if manifesting these behaviours change, how you interact with her, she will use them more. Your job isn't to make her feel happy you can try and lead her out of these mindsets but never at the expense of your own frame.

A quick question on the blow job question when did the issue of the trauma come up? Was it from day zero or was it further down the relationship? Depending on how she saw you at the beginning of the relationship i.e. AF or BB then this can tell you a lot. If she saw you as AF (Chad) and wasn't a problem at the beginning but now is it is more a shit test / manipulation. However if she saw you as AF (Chad) and was an issue then, sometimes trauma and hard no's are genuine and guys can work around them without fear of losing "alpha status".

A women for example may have a medical condition that rules out anal and if genuine means that no Chad will be going near it. Guys when discovering RP tend to have levels of attraction based on the compliance of the women (anal / face fucking) but sometimes there are also genuine issues and she won't be doing them with the next Chad's either.

You need to calibrate whether the issues are genuine and work around them or if not next and find someone without them. Don't let it become purely about validating your "alpha status" / attraction level unless you can learn to detach from "caring" about her or her potentially next'ing you.

Title	What to do when LTR can't handle dread?
Author	redpill_ltr-friendly
Upvotes	19
Comments	29
Date	September 16, 2018 1:10 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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