Hi, I'm 24 and have a 5 month old son with my girlfriend.
Adding to the constant fights and the time she pushed me away in the pregnancy. A little story on how I think I ruined the relationship.
We recently had a huge fight because she told me she feels like i don't really love her. I argued against that and told her am doing all this shit around the house and caring for our son, how could I not love you?
Of course it escalated because she argued against that and I got pissed. After that I took a shower while she read messages on my phone.
She found some texts I sent to my friend where I vented about her and those constant fights.
Of course she totally blows up and starts screaming at me.
Same day in the evening we have a second fight were whe both break out in tears and I'm telling her I'm not sure if don't love her anymore.
After this fight she finds me deleting messages to my friend where I vent about her.
A third fight ensues.
We made up again after me crying and telling her that I wouldn't want to ever lose her.
A few days later out of the blue she asks me if I'm faithful to her. Like a broken record I defend against it because nothing ever happened, but she doesn't believe me. She texts my stoner friend with my phone and asks him if he remembers the one time where I told him I was unfaithful to my girlfriend.
He says "yeah what about it"? She screenshotted this conversation and sent it to her phone.
She screams at me, takes the kid, my car and runs off.
I know that I'm acting like a total beta and that everything that has happened is my fault for not being able to lead her or putting up any boundaries.
I really thought that I found a unicorn, but after I failed to lead my family everything went downhill. I was a yes guy and totally operated in her frame.
My gut says that this relationship is totally over. The only thing I can save is myself and the relationship to my son.
Self improvement, lifting weights, running, Hobbys and reading Eckhart Tolles books are helping me to live through this situation.
I think this will be the point where I have to let go and start over.
What do you guys think about it, should I call it quits?
And I really need your guys advice on this.