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Own your Own look

by eyeamamess | November 09, 2017 | askMRP

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A year ago I took a chance on something different and shaved my head. One never knows how that will turn out since some people have weird shaped heads. Thankfully, mine looks good. It gave me a great boost of confidence and looks great on stage as well. I’ve maintained that look until a couple months ago when things just took a shit.

Long story short my wife’s MS hit hard and she lost the ability to walk and drive. Quite the emotional upheaval.. I’m used to doing most everything anyway, but now I really had to dig in. Dumping commodes, etc. Wheelchairs and walkers, exhaustion and upset.. I lost my frame a few times, but this is beyond the scope of this post. Maybe I’ll address it later on. I didn’t have the energy to maintain it and let it grow out.

I debated back and forth about keeping it. It was a comfortable look for everyone else.. I looked softer..nicer, but looking in the mirror, I would see me. I would see the same guy who was asleep at the wheel for so many years. The guy who blamed his wife for a lot of the financial trouble we found ourselves in over the years instead of me, who allowed it to happen, who couldn’t say no or stand up, all that shit described in the sidebar.

Now I have a little breathing room in my schedule and hit the gym last night for the first time since the setback. Getting the blood flowing back it feels good. I got up a bit earlier this morning and shaved it all off again. I look in the mirror and smile, feeling glad to be back. Now what I see is the external representation of who I want the guy on the inside to be. My son freaked out.. “oh, no… why did you do it??” I took the opportunity to explain to my kids that they shouldn’t allow other people’s preferences or opinions to dictate your behavior or dictate something as simple as a style. You may have rules at school or a job on certain things, but mainly it’s your own business. Wife was asleep when I left for work, but my son told her all about it so she called me and asked, “why?? Why?? You look so mean.” Etc. I laughed it off because I expected this. Crab buckets, all of them. I’m trying to grab the bananas at the top of the ladder. It’s my head, people.

I didn’t post this because I’m some RP expert.. trust me, I’m still a complete fuck up, but for the folks new to this, making an external change that’s comfortable and looks good on you is the easiest change to make. It also provides good practice in handling all the shit testing that occurs as a result. Go ahead and grow a beard, or shave yours off.. whatever. It’s your own fucking business.


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Title Own your Own look
Author eyeamamess
Upvotes 14
Comments 10
Date 09 November 2017 04:08 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/205185
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7bu9dc/own_your_own_look/
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[–]WesternhagenWinner21 points22 points  (1 child) | Copy

Shaved head, muscles = tough guy

Shaved head, no muscles = cancer patient

[–]Z06david6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Before I knew about MRP, I decided to make a change as I felt my thinning hair on top was holding me back in a way. The day I shaved that shit off, my wife fucked me that night. I owned that shit. I wasn't going to hide from anything anymore. Ever since then, I found MRP and have been undergoing positive changes since then. The shaving started me off.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

“why?? Why?? You look so mean.”

Fuck yeah I do. Best reason ever to shave my head.

[–]hystericalbonding2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haircuts and rule zero:

  • More IOI's from women you find attractive = good look.

  • More of the sex you want = good look.

  • Whatever your look, own it. I agree. But while "I like it" is fine for your frame, it isn't always the best strategy for getting laid.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'll just add that if you're not going completely bald (razor) but just going to a number 2 or 3, get a GOOD barber who can do a proper fade.

Makes all the difference in the world between looking like you just came from the dog groomer or DIY, vs having some style. A good barber can get your beard lined up while you're there and make suggestions for you too. Just make sure if you opt to keep it short, you stay on top of it every 2 weeks MAX. 1 week is even better.

Took 10 years off my appearance instantly, and yes I get the whole "you look like a badass" now. Oldest daughter had some new friends over a couple of weeks ago, and I could hear them asking her "is your dad a fighter?"

Hell yeah women notice.

[–]johneyapocalypse1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fascinating subject. First response is a gold mine, too.

I should know. I shaved mine - even with a full head of hair - because I wanted to. Looked badass and I have one of those lovely and wonderful skull shapes that make it work. Plenty of white dudes, many of whom seem to gravitate towards basketball, do not.

Empowered! That's how I felt. Was diggin' it. Worked out hard. Like a maniac.

Years later, lots of WWII chemicals coursing through my system - mustard gas derivatives no less - and the look was not, shall we say, empowering. Or good. Or attractive. Or whatever else positive anyone can think of. It was bad. Bad in a horror movie kind of way. I stumbled across a photo recently and had a real-live visceral response. I shuddered.

Past it and moving on.

Westernhagen is right: shaved head, muscles (today) = good. The other thing (before) = bad.

Culture plays a role, too. I'm in a cosmopolitan area where half the bros are sporting this look - with a commensurate level of tan that adds a nice touch.

Oddly, my family loves it - especially since I added a mini-beard to match. Rock it if it works but don't be that guy in the basement in Goonies if it doesn't.

[–]johneyapocalypse0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

One little point I'd like to make. Post-chemical and the inability to grow it like before, even though I was shaving it in the first place, was hard to swallow. Sounds odd, I suppose. Hell, I was shaving it off anyway, right? But I could still make it happen, then.

Like I said, past it and moving on.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Should we call you Style Jr.? :)

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Chicks dig bald heads between their legs.



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