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[FR] Leading, and using the cheat code

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August 31, 2017

Swallowed the pill back in July of '16. Choked, and swallowed again.

Married over 20 years. 6'5 215, 15% BF, visible abs, hair and clothes are on point.

As part of my process through MRP, I have slowly been taking back the decision making in pretty much every aspect of our life from my first mate.

We usually go out once or twice a week, golf, dinner, movie, hike etc. I've left it up to her to plan this in the past. Asking her where we are going and what we are doing.

It's funny, since she always had a plan I assumed that she wanted to plan it. Nope.. turns out she doesn't.

A few weeks ago, I texted her about 4pm and told her I'd be home to pick her up in an hour, we were going out, be dressed and ready to go. From the minute I picked her up, it was relentless shit testing. "why are we taking this car?" "How far are we going? I have to be back by 8 to do blah, blah, blah" "Why are you going this way, sounds like there is traffic"

About 4 different times, I just about turned the car around and dropped her off back at home. But I held frame, just smiled and said "It will be ok"

Ended up at a store to pick up a particular item for the house that she wanted. I agreed we needed it and and had discussed it a few weeks ago. I called and ordered it, and it was ready when we showed up.

As soon as we saw where we were "what? I don't want you spending money on xyx, blah, blah, blah" Led her into the store, made sure it was the one she wanted, and loaded it into the car.

Next stop was dinner at a new place, small out of the way, but very high end. "this is too expensive" "How long is this going to take?" On and on.. until a funny thing happened. About half way through dinner, she started opening up. Relaxing, just talking about everything (I let her ramble on)

On the way home, I got "wow.. that was so nice! Thank you for planning everything tonight, I really enjoyed myself"

The funny thing about this night was I can't even remember if we had sex or not. We most likely did, but that wasn't the point. The point is, this shit works. Just stick to the plan, she will shit test until you want to leave her by the side of the road, and then the clouds will part, and she will see the captain (or captain in training) isn't a complete moron, and she might fall in line. might

Part 2

I don't know who suggested this, but I seem to remember a member on here giving a similar example, and I used it with great success.

Wife gets out of the shower and is standing naked by the mirror getting ready. I walk by on my way to the closet and smack her on the ass. Then I come back through the bathroom and smack her again.

Instant shit test "Do you HAVE to hit my ass every time you walk by?"

Me: "I dunno, let me see?" I back up into the closet again, walk by and SMACK!.

"Yup.. I guess so"

She instantly went from a scowl to one of those roll eyed smiles.

So whoever that was that gave that example. Thanks. Smacking the ass is like a cheat code. It's the "go to"

That's all..

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Title [FR] Leading, and using the cheat code
Author MRPN00b
Upvotes 12
Comments 11
Date 31 August 2017 10:31 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/205552
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/6xacn4/fr_leading_and_using_the_cheat_code/
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[–]AustralianArm3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Car rides with a really shitty first mate are a great test in frame.

If you lose it, there's a good chance you'll kill one or both of you.

[–]askmeanything21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

[–]AustralianArm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. Very apropos.

Tom was definitely in Cameron's frame there. He thought he was stud extraordinaire and then became an smear on the dash.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

From the minute I picked her up, it was relentless shit testing. "why are we taking this car?" "How far are we going? I have to be back by 8 to do blah, blah, blah" "Why are you going this way, sounds like there is traffic"

This irritates me like crazy. Men have been so emasculated the only thing we can do is ignore the pernicious prattling and digging, poking, clawing, sanding, and stabbing at our frame. We can't even respond but have to act like Seligman's dogs (learned helplessness) just taking the painful electric shocks over and over and over and over again until we don't even feel them any more.

What we SHOULD be able to do is give her a backhand right in the kisser and tell her to shut her god damn mouth for a few minutes.

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am often say that when men were legally allowed to strike women, that was why they didn't have to.

Now? Ya shits a mess. Only good part is that a few of us have been made stronger as a result.

[–]nineworldseries0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No amount of sex is worth this infuriating bullshit. I was mad just reading about this hen prattle.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she ever asks you again if you have to "smack her ass all the time" escalate and grab her boobs. Look so deep into her eyes while you do it that you can see her skull.

Wife asked me that one time many, many years ago. Worked like a champ. Never asked again.

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Only a woman would be able to complain non stop and then say what a great time she had.

Nice job holding Frame.

[–]MRPN00b[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

It was close. Very close. About three different times, I about put the blinker on and flipped a U-Turn. Fake it till you make it, right?

That's what bothered me the most about this, is that it bothered me. If I was fully in my own strong frame it wouldn't have bothered me at all.

Baby steps.

[–]sh0ckley1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's what bothered me the most about this, is that it bothered me.

If that's true then you're close to unlocking a new achievement and have made progress. Did you actually bail like a faggot? No. The follow through will come another time.

Pretty sure that /u/BobbyPeru pointed out to me one time that Frame loss can mitigated well by how quickly one gets back on the horse with renewed strength and style: somewhere in my post history, I learned just how much of a bitch mine can be around her family... because she wants her sisters to know she got the strongest man - the female social Matrix is real.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


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