In NMMNG I remember reading that it may be a good idea to put sex on the backburner when starting the process of unplugging and rebuilding.

if you are displaying high value in various ways and this in turn makes you more attractive to your partner, but then not pursuing her sexually on a regular basis...does this end up being counterproductive?

edit: asking as more of a discussion to the theory than for personal advice. i have a plan in place and so far so good with it. although, any personal advice on how to balance the 2 is more than welcome...always willing to learn a thing or 2!