Greetings - Have read Rollo's and Greene's work and enjoyed a better beta to alpha story in my mid 20s-early 30s. Spun several plates on multiple occasions as a night-club DJ along with being a young urban professional by day. While spinning plates and records, met a woman who would later become my wife. While I never had her as my one until we were engaged (plated for a year plus, dated exclusively for 2+) I felt that I had vetted her well, despite knowing she was a previous carousel rider until she met me (she claims) I maintained my suspicions but, had no reason to not believe her.
I have recently come across research making its way around suggesting that marriages fail based upon the number of premarital sexual partners the female has had. I would like to hear the group's thoughts on this. If her N is accurate as she claims, even with multipliers, I am comfortable in my SMV and N count.
Would it make sense to bring this research up and discuss it with her as a hat-tip to dread? Or that I would have considerable concerns over the research, etc.
We have no children and are set to have our two year wedding anniversary this spring. I am curious to hear the groups thoughts as I am a new poster here.
Thank You
Edit: As far as current satisfaction in the marriage, the sex is fine and plentiful. I have had better and I have had worse. I would say that my needs are being met or exceeded and have denied her a few times every other week or so to get it that much better the next time.
Edit II: When we were dating exclusively she had decided to go through a digital camera I had not used in long time to discover some photos of me in compromising situations from the past. She threw a shit fit over it, but, there wasn't much she could do when the photos were taken as she was not exclusive. Honestly had forgotten they were there. Regardless, wanted to frame out the relationship a bit more.
Edit III:
The link to the research is below, though I may initially have been misinformed as 20 for the n-count. I believe it cited 10+
https://family-studies.org/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability/
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