So new to this (6 days) and have started lifting this week and trying to stay on schedule. Also, I play volleyball on Thursdays - so today my wife calls and is just shooting the shit about her day and asks what am I doing, mentioned a few things I did in the morning and said I'm going to lift and then play volleyball tonight - and I thought it was a pretty innocent statement.
She says "oh so I won't see you tonight" - I responded depends how late you'll be up, I'll be back around 11. She blows up and says I don't tell her things and just spring this on her and she thought we could do something tonight - I said well I have to lift and play volleyball, why are you upset?
She gets real quiet, holding back tears, I can hear it - BP me would have said its ok, I'll do volleyball next week, let's do something. But I just stayed quiet too, after about 10 seconds I said should I just let you go, she was like ya - oh and I offered (before the argument) to get her dinner before I leave and she was like "AND DONT GET ME DINNER". No problem, one less thing on my plate.
I see the manipulation now, indeed - my question is that I know she'll want to talk about this, prob tonight as I crawl into bed - I'm thinking of owning it, yes I didn't give you notice, I'll do that going forward and say nothing else? That sound right?