Pregnant defacto of 10 years, 3rd child.

ex_addict_bro · 2016-03-10T00:47:48+00:00

Now I've finally realised it's because I broke rule number 1. I didn't lift.

Well, people will write you replies, then you will broke rule nr 5783: you won't listen to wise guys on MRP sub. Won't you?

The problem: my partner is 36 weeks pregnant(third child) , which means the baby is due any time now. I've told her I'm going to go to the gym, she cracked the shits.

WHY NOT, man? Why not?

She may be genuinely interested in having you at home if anything starts.

3rd birth per vaginam? It will end sooner than you think.

Find a gym near your home and keep your phone turned on. Take her and kids with you. Support her, because why not?

I'm telling her that if our bedroom doesn't improve in out. And I fucking mean it.

Sounds weak. Acta non verbal. See 12 levels of dread post... or maybe... is BluepillProfessor another guy who you are not going to listen to?

Now, is it a bad time to start implementing all that I've learned given that she is so close to birth? Is it too much of a dick thing to do given her emotional state?

Turn off being dick. Turn off Machiavelli. Just fucking wait a few weeks until the kid is out.

I guess what I'm asking, is what parts of TRP should I be practising and not practising during this time and the 2-3 months after birth?

I'd start with "baby, lifting is important for my health. I want to support you and the kids as long as possible. I need to lift, because [some bullshit]. What are you afraid of?". Talk is fucking cheap and chances are it will be enough. She needs comfort, she needs "good beta". Taking care of your pregnant woman is DHV.

But what the hell, you won't listen. In my opinion, being a dick when she's pregnant is plain stupid. Be a good beta to her, be an avid listener and reader here, be a bad motherfucker at the gym. There is no point with showing her a "faux alpha" attitude (aka "being a dick") because it is what it is - a lie. Talking to her about your new alpha bad boy life is also useless, it is a waste of time, because talk is cheap. Actions not words.

You want to go to the gym, you go to the gym anyway, she won't be able to do anything about it, why fight her about it?

AH. I remember.

The third kid is coming.

You are looking for a way to leave her, don't you?

This is what I did in the past. I wanted to escape responsibility somehow.

This is why you INSIST on the gym right now, even if you shat all over it for the past months. This is why you MUST GO THERE NOW ASAP even if for the past months you had the idea of lifting dangling around your arsehole. This is why you must re-frame her as a BAD WOMAN.

This is why you frame yourself AS A VICTIM already.

"See guys? She won't let me go to the gym, that bad pregnant bitch"

No, man. You ignored gym for 6 months. STFU and work out some compromise with her and act like a human being, she's fucking pregnant. You want to leave her, you can leave her, be a decent human being and don't do it today, wait until no 3 is out.

dandar4600 · 2016-03-09T20:21:38+00:00

The thing with pregnancy is that pregnant sex sucks ass. Me and my wife both hated it and we like having sex with each other (been unplugging for over a year.) Now 2 months after delivery, when she got an ok that sex was fucking amazing in comparison to what it was when she was pregnant.

If I were you, right now I would focus on myself. Lift free weights according to a plan like starting strength or strong lifts 5x5. Something that has linear progression that will get you up to speed fast. That's 3 times a week, 30-60 minutes at the gym. In and out. In 4 months you will feel and look better, she will get an OK from the doc to have sex again and then you can try and start gaming, dreading and setting demands.

Of course if she's the only one that gets up to feed the baby at night, don't expect much. We both get up together (alternating) and half the time after lifting sex is the last thing on my mind. Baby in bed? Hit the sack close your eyes and get any rest that you can.

Your best bet is to lift, stfu about sex until baby sleeps through the night and just own your shit, game your wife (after she gets ok from the doc) and see if shit changes. My guess is that it will without you having to resort to threats and demands.

Tollanador · 2016-03-09T20:21:25+00:00

u/bluepillprofessor comments often, and I agree, that starting to go hard RedPill on a very pregnant woman is a bad idea. Your partner has been pregnant during your entire RP journey.

Let her pop out the kid. Let things get back to normal. Then you start self improving. Go through the 12 levels of dread. You're not ready to lay down the "fuck me, or fuck you" statement yet.

Tollanador · 2016-03-09T20:57:00+00:00

You don't sound too fond of her, doesn't sound like a father happy to have a 3rd.

cj_aubrey · 2016-03-10T07:34:52+00:00

My wife will have our third in about 2 weeks and I've been unplugging for 6 months. Also, my wife started out as a dragon bitch (softened now) and I made it to the gym 5 times last week. There are a number of facets to MRP. Increasing alpha behaviors (shit tests, dread) is one of them facets of MRP, and you need to be careful with this (especially dread) in pregnancy. But the following are also areas where you can make progress while your wife is pregnant.

Passing shit tests with A&A, AM, ignoring, just not nuking them.
Reading the whole sidebar
Good beta / Oak moves
Solid captaining (this will be huge to her)
Lifting. Do it in your garage at 5am.

I would also suggest you are more relaxed about compliance tests (if she has mobility problems) and lack of sex. The problem with progress isn't your circumstances.

cholomite · 2016-03-09T20:15:18+00:00

I don't have kids so I can't comment on pregnancy...etc. I do want to say one thing though, because I think you need to hear it.

Your wife isn't fucking you because you are unattractive. In fact, she is probably physically repulsed at the thought of having your beta dick anywhere near her naked body. Why are you going to give your wife an ultimatum for something that is entirely your fault? You don't lift, you have no confidence or frame, you probably have a weak ass supplicating personality, and you somehow think that an ultimatum will make your wife find you attractive? Get your head out of your ass man, and for fucks sake get your sorry ass to the gym already.

Tollanador · 2016-03-09T21:09:44+00:00

third kid? with a dead/ sub par bedroom situation? Are any of the kids even yours?

you are a pussy. Take care of your kids ( assuming they are yours?) and take care of yourself. Also I think IrateMD dandar and the Count would likely weigh in on specifics.

the basics stay the same. You are a pussy and not in a position to throw ultimatums.

Tollanador · 2016-03-09T21:12:39+00:00

Oh. She browses reddit, hence the throwaway, that won't be thrown away.

Title	Pregnant defacto of 10 years, 3rd child.
Author	Tollanador
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	March 9, 2016 7:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/49prhp/pregnant_defacto_of_10_years_3rd_child/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askMRP/pregnant-defacto-of-10-years-3rd-child.207616 https://theredarchive.com/post/207616

Comments