I'm "Alpha" in my dealings with the wife but find myself having anxiety with AMOGs and losers at work.

ShivMeister69ZFG · 2016-02-21T19:21:44+00:00

Anxiety, depression, agoraphobia? Maybe you need an MD, not MRP?

Alpha-Gator · 2016-02-21T19:40:07+00:00

It's been said, you seem to have debilitating anxiety issues. Are they rooted in self esteem? How's your lifting going? I went through a similar period and had convinced myself that my social circle had caused the change, when really I had such cripplingly low self esteem that I retreated into my shell along with the Beta Bitch Goblin. Maybe an MD is necessary, but I'll let /u/irateMD deal with that. Without more info, I think it's still entirely possible you're not being honest with yourself, and that in the back of your mind there are things you know you should still work on.

ShivMeister69ZFG · 2016-02-21T19:56:05+00:00

Fighter flight is usually a fear based reaction.

What kind of autonomy do you have there?

Also, they are acquaintances, not friends.

ShivMeister69ZFG · 2016-02-22T01:53:48+00:00

They're mostly low betas, constantly trying to shit on each other or throw the other guy under the bus. I have difficulty making a slick response to blow anything off because I get angry as fuck and mostly just let it simmer so I don't nuclear response (don't want them to know it gets to me)

It's a very open and masculine place. So when I do put someone in check, there are few restrictions.

I don't know how much I can add to what the other vets have offered you. But, for me, many years ago, I came to the conclusion that I was alone in this world. No one can get too close. Things went well for me as long as I held this rule.

The only exception is my current wife - and as a MRP'er we all know what happens when I let that get too close.

Maybe you are struggling with the reality that these jerks CANNOT be your friends. It can be a tough mental transition, but not fatal, and if addressed head-on can go away. I guess this runs into what others have said here.

RPAlternate42 · 2016-02-22T03:39:22+00:00

I'm not advertising for the sport, but join a BJJ gym. That martial art, unlike others, thrives on the personal relationships of the people you roll with. BJJ, specifically, has helped autistics and people with "crippling" anxiety and depression capable of common interactions with others.

Your issue is likely one a result of confidence, on some level and because you are better with your wife, it may be that you are just this way with people you don't have constant, intimate contact with.

AnarchoSurfer · 2016-02-22T04:44:15+00:00

Supplements can help with the anxiety thing. Start with a really good multi, fish oil, and cal/mag. PM me if you want more info.

ShivMeister69ZFG · 2016-02-22T22:45:31+00:00

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