What law of power do I need to study to stop being vocal about reading people..

jacktenofhearts · 2016-02-13T09:17:39+00:00

though I can't shut it when people say things that are so blatantly ridiculous.. and self serving.. and manipulative..

because I have become quite adept at reading body language and tonality (read: only child single mother).

I could have written some shit like this about 10 years ago. Thought I was a fucking genius, reading the Cialdini's "Influence" books, and other books on things like "microexpressions," and and studies on "birth order," and then a whole motherlode of early 2000s PUA. I pretty much just acted like The Smartest Guy in the Room at all times. If you're one of those guys getting into PUA or TRP and saying your friends are expressing concern "you've changed," it's possible those friends are plugged in Blue Pill loser doing the "crabs in a bucket" thing. Or maybe you're just acting like an unbearable douchebag, like I was.

Been awhile since I brushed up on my 48 Laws, but if you want some tips on how to stop acting like an unbearable douchebag, I may still be able to help. So here goes.

If you spent most of your formative years as a half-autistic social retard, then this "skill" you have is known as "being neurotypical." Seriously, this isn't some fucking secret power. A lot of our initial social adeptness are probably some combination of genetics and socialization during our formative years, so if you were a half-autistic social retard in your younger years, the "trait" you're describing is probably just overcoming that handicap to operate closer to more neurotypical and well-socialized person.

If you want an analogy, imagine you were born as a paraplegic, but then you eventually learned how to walk on crutches. And now you think you're a goddamn superhero because you have "metallic legs," and you're coming here asking "I'm can walk really fast, but how do I stop bashing people in the shins with my metallic legs." No, actually, you can't walk "really fast." You've consciously learned to overcome some combination of your introversion, social anxiety, and general inability to handle non-verbal social cues. But while that just means your crutches may enable you to walk as fast as a non-handicapped person, but you'll probably still have this awkward crutch-swinging see-saw staggering movement, which will find you stumbling into any bystanders. You still need a lot more work to do to actually walk as fast and look as natural as a non-handicapped person.

Parsing non-verbal cues is very easy to do if you're watching people behind a secret double-sided mirror. Telling a fun story is also very easy to do if you were recording yourself into a mic. Doing both is the actual challenge, and clearly you're still struggling because you clearly cannot parse non-verbal cues and regulate your responses.

I'm aware of STFU.. which would help immensely.. though I can't shut it when people say things that are so blatantly ridiculous.. and self serving.. and manipulative..

If you've detected a "bullshitter," someone who is talking about something you think is exaggerated, inauthentic, or outright false, then you have literally just admitted you can't flip that rolodex of social responses fast enough to get to something that will subtly disarm the bullshitter, or perhaps egg the bullshitter on more, or just concede to the bullshitter because he's not important enough to expose. Your rolodex spins so slowly that, in the few seconds you have to respond to the bullshitter's bullshit, you can only flip to "Card 1," which is "Obnoxiously Call Him Or Her Out And Confirm Your Role as the Conversational and Social Buzzkill With Everyone You're With." The only other option you have is not flip through the Rolodex at all, which is "Say Nothing."

You literally described this is what you do. I mean, I get it. You see some basic bitch running her mouth off about basic bitch things, and your mind processes it like this. And you're so pleased with yourself you've finally "cracked the code," that you can now decipher these "tests" in your social interactions. And just like the metallic crutches, they are an improvement. Don't get me wrong. But to use, I suppose, the fourth analogy in this comment (crutches, rolodexes, Sphinx challenges), you view your social life as a test where the test questions are in French, and now you've learned French, and you can finally decipher questions, and realize they are questions like, "Is The Intended Audience For Shakespeare's Sonnet 18 A Man or a Woman?"

And you're tempted to stand up and shout: "Hah! This is a bullshit question, the answer is completely subjective! Who the fuck cares about Shakespeare? And seriously, is Shakespeare gay now? Is this more gay liberal indoctrination? Yeah, look, this question is bullshit and the whole test is bullshit. And I feel it's really important that I make everyone here aware of that fact."

Yeah, so, don't do that. Do you have to conform to the bullshit coming out of everyone's mouth? Nah. But you know what, your only option for non-conformist behavior is not YELL AT EVERYONE REALLY LOUDLY ABOUT HOW NON-CONFORMIST YOU ARE. So, how about you write an essay about how the answer is a both a man and a woman, but only because Sonnet 18 was actually intended for a transgender FemaleToOtherkin, but that Otherkin was actually a transgender FemaleToMale Elven Vampire, so by the transitive property, everything cancels out and you're left with Female = Male.

That'd be a pretty funny essay, right? Your classmates would think it was funny, and then your teacher would be pissed, until she sees your conclusion, where you explain how this essay wasn't intended to make a mockery of her and her test, but to demonstrate how to think Sonnet 18 is a love poem to someone is missing the point, because it's actually about the fragile brevity of life, which is applicable to everyone, including but not limited to men, women, and transgender MaleToFemale Elven Vampires. So your essay is both hilarious snark and cleverly insightful, and your teacher gives you an A+ now that she doesn't need to worry about SJW on your campus getting her fired. #NotAllTransElvenVampires.

Swallowing the Red Pill is not about realizing the test is bullshit. It's about realizing that everything in life is an open-ended question, even if it looks like it only has multiple-choice answers.

If you want to watch a comedian that really represents this idea, watch Louis Black. Just this angry, grumpy, ranting, "this is fucked and bullshit and I hate everything"... except it's fucking funny. And believe it or not, the difference between Louis Black and some edgy edgelord like yourself, who proudly declares "yeah, I'm an asshole, deal with it" is more than that t-shirt. Or to put it another way, I find it hilarious when Red Pill tries to extend the dichotomy of Alpha/Beta with hilarious bullshit like "Sigma," and this is why whenever I read someone on MRP saying "I consider more of a Sigma than an Alpha," I just read that as "I consider myself someone who has minimal social skills because of a limited ability to overcome my introversion." Sure, there are fictional characters portrayed as badass Sigmas like Judd Nelson's "Bender" in "The Breakfast Club" and Gilfoyle in the HBO TV show "Silicon Valley," but, you know, they're fictional.

And actually, now that I took a little break to watch some clips, Bender is actually a fucking whiny bitch. Which actually explains why, if memory serves me right, the girl he ends up with is a sexually promiscuous compulsive liar, who gives him a hickey, makes him wear one the earrings at the end of the movie, and will probably fuck Emilio Estevez next week anyway.

So, you know, this whole "IDGAF what people think about me, I just speak my mind and if they have a problem with it, they can go fuck themselves" -- that's going to pay limited dividends. Especially because you're probably just NGAF by default, because as I mentioned earlier, your social intelligence is still probably too slow to respond with anything else anyway. Contrast that to Louis Black, who represents that he DGAF, but clearly he very much must give a fuck, because he's trying to sell tickets to his comedy shows. That's why he's writing a hilarious essay on MaleToFemaleOtherkin Elven Vampires, while you're back in detention for the next 7 Saturdays, with a faded hickey on your neck, and this time you don't even have Anthony Michael Hall to write your essay for you.

(con't)

trp-grasshopper · 2016-02-13T08:05:28+00:00

I think I've been in the anger phase pretty much the majority of my life

Usually goes with blaming others for your problems. Ditch the victim mentality. I have my doubts that anything I say will help, since people with anger issues are extremely resistant to behavior modification. Are you going to prove me wrong?

I can't shut it when people say things that are so blatantly ridiculous.. and self serving.. and manipulative..

Read and apply WISNIFG. Beyond that, you need maturity and social skills to know when to talk and when to STFU.

pullypants · 2016-02-13T08:03:08+00:00

Focus on improving yourself, fuck what anyone else does.

648262 · 2016-02-13T09:08:18+00:00

I'm aware of STFU.. which would help immensely.. though I can't shut it

Then you are weak and come here looking for us to do it for you. That doesn't work.

Become an adult and take responsibility for your own actions. You're asking for help with what must be literally the easiest task in the world. Just don't open your mouth.

Sure, you'll be frustrated with people, but nothing you tell them will change what happened - your anger, their nativity; it will remain no matter what you do.

Now go out into the world and STFU..!

BluepillProfessor · 2016-02-16T18:10:48+00:00

Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others

trp-grasshopper · 2016-02-13T12:49:43+00:00

Get yourself off the pedestal. You want to be right, and everyone to know it.

No one gives a shit about you, and theres multiple rules you could have referenced. That's the point of reading, to answer this question

But for an answer, before you speak, think about what your ideal outcome is. Do your words get you closer to it? If not, don't speak

Title	What law of power do I need to study to stop being vocal about reading people..
Author	trp-grasshopper
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Date	February 13, 2016 4:45 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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