Clear anger issues here. For me, it takes a while to build up anger. For her, it's almost SUDDEN and it can be anything. She came home and started yelling at the kids for not cleaning their rooms. Then she yells at me for not cleaning my side of the table. I personally don't think it's dirty. I call her out on HER side of the table which has her iPhone cords all over the place and her empty shoe boxes. She starts hitting me - i block myself and she goes "why can't you just say SORRY and clean it up?" she KNOCKS everything off the dresser and tells me to pick it up or she won't talk to me all night.
That's a typical night.
Her main thing is when I forgot to do something or accidentally spill something - I don't say SORRY to HER. I used to say it a lot in my beta days. I don't anymore. If I'm slightly wrong, I'll say "my apologies" but never sorry. Am I wrong for that? I can't keep saying sorry all the time. I've been getting gradually better and owning my shit.