The little things

teaandtalk · 2019-01-25T23:24:54+00:00

Some things that I know my SO has appreciated lately (we're currently in an LDR so bear this in mind):

he mentioned needing a new dressing gown, I bought one online and got it shipped to him with a mildly racy message attached. Obviously he obviously could have bought himself a dressing gown - but I spent the time finding a nice one, and getting it shipped to him wrapped up in a package with a flirty note. He will feel looked after and paid attention to.
I sent him a keychain that made me think of him.
I asked him for dick pics and was appropriately admiring when he sent them ;) (sidenote: so many guys have been turned off sending dick pics because of all the outrage from women getting unsolicited dickpics. But tell him you want them, and show him how much you like them, and he will be happy to send them to you)
I send him sweet notes thanking him for all the hard work he puts in for our family.
I load up his bag when he's travelling away after a visit, so I've been stocking up on his favourite snacks and will be writing some open-when notes for him to take away with him.

Note one: don't go overboard if you're his girlfriend not his wife. Dressing gowns are not a sexy item but we are a team and buying things is something he doesn't like doing. Also, even if you are his wife, make sure you're not mothering rather than wifing him - too many looking-after gestures will kill attraction.

Note two: These things are definitely love-language focused, so make sure you're not putting your energy into buying cute presents if his love language is quality time, for example!

gracefulgirl1 · 2019-01-28T20:26:13+00:00

My hubby works from home and I work in an office so some things I like to do to make sure he is taken care of throughout the day are:

Wake up early and make him breakfast
Make sure the kitchen and house are clean when I leave
Fill the water pitcher so he can make tea throughout the day
Prep him a snack or some fruit and put it on his desk for when he becomes hungry mid-day
If I wake up earlier and go to the gym, I put frozen fruit and juice in the blender to thaw so he can just blend it and make a smoothie when he wants one

I also go into work a little early so I can leave by 4 and be home in the evening with him. I also make him dinner in the evening even though I work, sometimes doing meal prep on weekends or freezing things. I also make him breakfast burritos and freeze them so he can have those in the morning.

In the evenings I always make sure he has water filled on his nightstand and I make the bed so the sheets and blankets aren’t all wrinkled so he can get in easier. We have electric mattress pads so I always turn the bed on so it’s warm for him when he gets in. If his back is sore I will massage him or use the foam roller. And after dinner he loves having fruit for dessert so I always peel or chop up fruit for him. I also hang up his clothes if he takes them off and leaves them draped on the bed.

Those are the everyday things but as for finding new things, I just pay attention to whatever he is interested in at the moment or if he makes a comment. Lately he has been into hot sauces so I buy him those when I see them or take a picture at the grocery and send it to him and ask him if he wants any of them. He’s also super into board games so I play with him as much as possible and go with him to group gaming events.

Theendisnearornot · 2019-01-26T13:00:19+00:00

When I walk the dog in the morning I warm up the car and if there is snow or ice I will clear it off (the car is already warmed up so I can just brush it all off). I also like to make him a cup of coffee to bring to work.

flamin_mamie · 2019-01-29T04:28:22+00:00

-Whenever he's driving me somewhere, when I get in the passenger side of the car, I lean over and unlock the driver's side for him.

-Dogs are my role model for how to act when he gets home from work. I get excited when I hear him coming in and jump up and hug him.

-He likes to do little things for me - repairs, cleaning, etc. - and then wait to see how long it takes me to notice. It takes effort to always be looking for what's different in the house, what might have been done while I was asleep or at work. But I know it means the world to him that I notice and appreciate. In fact, it means the world to me that he cared enough to fix or clean something just to make me happy. He did the hard part - all I have to do is be aware of my surroundings.

[deleted] · 2019-01-30T20:44:57+00:00

I have three children now so I have a lot less time for my husband, but I try and do little things. On the weekend, I wake up early to get him breakfast in bed before the kids wake.

My husband works from home, which does allow me to bring him snacks/drinks through the day as he wants them as well.

What about you OP? Do you have any good gestures for your husband/SO?

LibbyLoo222 · 2019-03-28T23:36:43+00:00

Every morning I help him wake up rubbing is feet and ankles, scratching back, or something similar.

I pack his work bag with lunch, snack, water, coffee, and gym clothes and have his breakfast ready by the time he’s dressed.

When I put away his T-shirt’s I group them by color so he can find the one he wants.

I help the kids make him notes of thanks and love to stick in his work bag.

Title	The little things
Author	LaneysWorld2
Upvotes	16
Comments	9
Date	January 25, 2019 9:24 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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