RPWi weekly reflections: 08/15/16 summer food edition

2016-08-15T11:18:24+00:00

Good: I hosted a Sunday brunch for some friends, it turned out beautifully and we all had a great time!

Bad: I've been procrastinating on some paperwork and I missed the deadline to get it done. So today I've got to give them a call but just thinking about it makes my stomach sink.

Ugly: Ugh my apartment right now! After all the stress of putting on brunch and mimosas I had to give myself a lazy day yesterday and didn't clean up. But it will get done today.

Favorite summer food: It's quickly becoming pineapple. It's great in salsa or just soaked in rum!

Trauma_Burn_RN · 2016-08-15T20:18:14+00:00

Good: I've been picking up on my MILs good habits. She keeps an excellent home (were living with the for a month), and keeping up with neatness is becoming routine. I load the dishwasher, vacuum regularly, fold and put away laundry as it comes out (I like to fold and then never put away laundry. Bah.) She's also a cleaning lady by trade, so she's showing me the ropes of keeping a spotless home. My mum wasn't the best housekeeper, but she made up for it by being the most delightful person to come home to!

Bad: Gawd, I'm lazy. I barely exercise, and I ate nothing but junk this weekend. I'm ashamed of myself. I do really well on a low carb diet, because the minute I eat carbs, I go crazy. Ugh.

The Ugly: Not related to my husband at all, but my patient threw up into my face at work today. Like, i had to scrub chunks out of my glasses frame. I'm a cardiac surgical nurse! Give me blood and gore, but not puke!

I've been totally digging "zoodles" lately. They're noodles made out of zucchini - fresh, tasty, pairs well with basil, and keeps me feeling lighter than a serving of pasta. Plus, we're in the middle of farm country, so every other house has a stand with fresh, cheap zucchini!

2016-08-15T11:45:28+00:00

Good: So last week i was on travel and still kept up with my routine. When I came back I thought I'd be all over the place but I just got shit done! I was on the ball this weekend with getting caught up. I even UNPACKED. I never do that. lol.

Bad: Yesterday I was hangry. Oh. Dear. God. I went to a meeting but before my SO asked what we were doing for dinner. I said "I'm not sure. I'm up for whatever so figure it out and we can do that." He said ok. So after my meeting...2 hours later.. I'm starving. I had no idea I'd be so hungry. When I get back he is sleeping. Ok fine. Wake him up and asked if we are going to eat. It literally took us 45 minutes for him to pick something. Now I usually don't mind his indecision. But I was so freaking hungry I could have eaten a shoe. I was just getting so upset. Burgers...no noodles... no burgers..no noodles.. UUGGHHH JUST PICK A FUCKING PLACE ALREADYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY. In hindsight I should have just eaten some fruit and sat back and watched his sleepy brain go back and forth. But I didn't. I need to figure out how to mitigate my hunger better. Planning better. Looking forward to timelines. Understanding he isn't a good planner and PREPARING FOR THAT!!!! He knew I was hangry so we had noodles and was like "you better now????" and I was.

Bonus: I like to eat a lot of BBQ in the summer. I don't know why in the winter it just isn't the same. Pulled pork. Ribs. Anything you can smother with BBQ I'm all about.

I recently made this BBQ chicken with this coleslaw with the mayonnaise dressing. It was sooo good. :D

blushinglilly · 2016-08-15T13:35:43+00:00

Happy Monday to you and everybody.

Ugly: I haven't been as organised as I meant to be.

Bad: I've been a bit grumpy at times.

Good: This maybe doesn't count as good but here goes. My husband has done something which really hurt my feelings and made me feel quiet unappreciated. It happened a while ago but I only noticed on a day last week when he was really insanely busy. These past few weeks have been a peak time for the business and he has been stressed. Old me would have brought it up on the day when I was feeling hurt, but I decided this would be counter productive for both of us and would only make him feel worse on a day when he really needed to focus. I decided to take some time on my own to stew over it and have a little cry, and then I got on with the day without mentioning it or being sullen or grumpy. I am going to bring it up in future as it's too important to let go of entirely, but I'll do it at at time when he is less stressed. A side benefit of this has been that I've had more time to think about it and my views on it are more clear. I can now say why it hurt me in a reasonable way, rather then having the discussion when I'm upset and less rational. Sorry if that's a bit vague.

hazelfox · 2016-08-15T13:40:42+00:00

Good: I got the job I applied for last week! It's a great opportunity, and I start in two weeks.

Bad/Ugly: My anxiety is off the charts. We are getting married in five weeks and I'm changing jobs in two weeks. Every second of the day, I feel crushing anxiety about how everything is probably going to implode. I'll fail at the job, and as soon as I say "I do" Paul will abandon me or start cheating on me with the awful girl at his work, and I'll be left with nothing. Maybe this is partly because a) I got divorced 10 years ago and b) I've been cheated on by a previous guy and lied to about it even when I could clearly see what was happening. And of course, I can't just go wildly projecting these anxieties onto others, so I've been withdrawing and putting all my energy into things like laundry, dinner, anything to keep me distracted so that he can't see that I'm sad and crying all the time. I can't stop crying. I don't know what to do.

2016-08-16T00:50:59+00:00

Good: I have been absolutely killing it at the gym and on the home front. Stuck to my cleaning schedule, and have been having a lot of fun getting everything ready for my SO to come home this week.

Bad: All the excitement is also making me nervous, like being at the top of a roller coaster so I've been a bit of a space cadet. Drinking too much caffeine has not been helping.

Not pretty (ugly): the hydrangea in the front of the house succumbed to some sort of plant virus. I'm sending samples in to a family friend who is a plant pathologist, but I am worried that it might be spreading to my other perennials and will wipe them out by September. :(

My favorite summer food is cucumbers. I love to eat them on their own, in salads, or in water!

2016-08-16T10:16:35+00:00

Good I signed up for a 90 days challenge to set up good and sustainable habits. (Conscious self-improvement, yay!)

Bad I should be more active instead of reactive. I feel like I can turn this around, though, by focusing on creative activities and reading up on my current interests so I can be more vocal about them.

Ugly I think the above can very quickly become ugly. I sometimes feel as if I'm ... boring? Nobody has commented on it, yet, but it crosses my mind from time to time.

Summer food/drink On non-workout days, definitely salads. I think I get in (a lot) more good macro- and micronutrients than before because of them! I now have at least one salad a week.

bakebynumbers · 2016-08-15T16:15:24+00:00

Good: My friends and I got an apartment together for the upcoming semesters, and moved in this weekend. I got all unpacked, and we went shopping and got little touches to make it a home (curtains, table runners, etc) and it is going to look so good! I'm so excited for the apartment and my last year of college.

Bad: Actually packing/moving/unpacking and cleaning everything is not super fun. Neither is trying to resolve issues with management. But honestly it really has been a good week!

Anoulie · 2016-08-15T17:09:46+00:00

Good: I spent all Saturday cleaning the house, now everything's in its place and I can see the Broken Window Effect - well, not at work. It's great! I also made a more balanced housekeeping schedule and started doing some skincare. Wanna keep this face youthful for my husband :)

Bad: I've been really grumpy lately, and pretty short/not patient with my husband. He's on a business trip this week, so I'm gonna try the "one week of saying only positive things" when he gets back next Monday.

Ugly: My behavior (see above).

2016-08-15T18:02:07+00:00

The good: I had some really useful talks with my husband. He said he misses the days when we used to collaborate more on work. I do too. I said I hate feeling responsible for all the logistical stuff about the house and kids. I've said this before, but this time I said it better : ) instead of whining or wailing, I was clear and funny. He listened and started taking more initiative around the house : ) which in turn frees up my brain cells to work on projects with him.

The bad: I've been letting my exercise routines slip. I need to get back on track before this turns into ugly...

IssabelV · 2016-08-16T01:11:36+00:00

Good: I have found myself stopping nagging totally. Which I must say is a total win for me. I have found that most difficult to be really honest. I am just so used to nagging everywhere.

Bad: I have not exercised this past week. Which I don't need but I get more energy and I like it. Our kid likes it too. I have to do better this week.

2016-08-16T18:00:27+00:00

Good: After a really rough patch of internal insanity, my emotions are leveling out and my home is becoming harmonious again. I've been a bit AWOL lately because of a lot of personal stuff going on between work and home - SO and I are both going through extremely trying times at work, it's no bueno. He gets a bit of a short fuse when work is like this, and does not want to socialize at home or really engage at all - he just wants to eat dinner, do his own thing, and for me to be available when he's ready. Traditionally, I would immediately get hurt and offended by this, the hamster would get going and I would interpret all of this as my fault and I would get upset at him for being mad at me, and upset at myself for making him mad at me and ...well, you get the point. So, I've made a concerted effort to realize that it's not actually my fault, this is just a rough patch that has absolutely nothing to do with us, it will end in due time, and just let it happen. Just let it roll. It's helping. I can't say it's fixed everything yet because we're still both in this nightmare phase at work, but it's helping and as long as I can keep the hamster off the wheel, I think it'll all be good again.

Bad: The housework has suffered because of this nightmare mode, I have been neglecting it like crazy and just doing the bare minimum to get by - laundry, clean the bathroom, de-clutter, that's it. Minimal sweeping, just to avoid dog-hair tumbleweeds. And that's not even the ugly part...

Ugly: We had a bat in our house at 3 a.m. this morning! It was horrible. We seriously both just tried to ignore it at first, the stupid thing just kept going around and around with the ceiling fans because of echolocation, from one room to the next. Eventually it figured out how to get out, I'm just glad it didn't bite anyone and that our dogs are vaccinated.

Bonus: Guacamole and fresh tortilla chips with margaritas! So summery and fun.

Title	RPWi weekly reflections: 08/15/16 summer food edition
Author	CoochQuarantine
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Date	August 15, 2016 11:02 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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