Intimacy issues

effyouasshole · 2019-01-30T14:48:43+00:00

but after some time it became shallow and dull.

Stop chasing silly thots at clubs. Try running long-game on women with more substance. You'll find that more enjoyable.

Also, make sure you don't make women your mission. That never leads to happiness.

lokilis · 2019-01-30T15:13:04+00:00

This is the fallacy that I see much of TRP fall into. Some guys are fine with spinning plates ad nauseum, other people like you want to have a "fulfilling relationship".

You could argue that from an evolutionary standpoint, this type of emotionally fulfilling relationship shouldn't exist, and is only a result of the bluepilled narrative on "true love". I think it's an inevitable part of the human condition.

There have been stories throughout history of both kinds of men. Great leaders who had harems and concubines, and recognized that having a sole mistress or lover would undermine their power. On the other hand, there are tales of great fulfilled or unfulfilled love throughout history (Orpheus and Eurydice, Odysseus and Penelope, Lancelot and Guinevere... the list goes on). Maybe you'll just say all these guys are bluepilled, but they still achieved great things during their lives.

You could say that this desire for a fulfilling relationship caused the downfall of these men. That may be true.

Anyways, what I'm getting at is, some of us (still) want that fulfilling relationship even after being 'redpilled'. Use the tools you learned from TRP to find and build that relationship, on your terms. I think if you find the right woman, you can mold her to be the kind of lover you want, and ensure that this relationship will never cause any harm to you or your mission, and still provide occasional emotional catharsis and health to you.

You may argue that men should find this emotional catharsis from friendships (NOT merely association/acquaintance) with other men, rather than relegating this role to a woman. I'm still forming an opinion on this particular point.

I'm probably going to get a lot of shit for this post, but I'll be happy to discuss.

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-01-30T14:45:30+00:00

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LoLDamo · 2019-01-30T15:41:13+00:00

I have the same issue. What I usually do do is promote a plate to girlfriend but without the commitment. Sounds weird but we are free to do what we want although we will regularly hangout. Usually lasts about 3 months before they push for exclusivity or I get bored of her. In my experience they are always loyal over this time period.

I also now struggle to find any value in women outside how they look and how good they are in bed. Every time I think a chick is different it all changes once she enters my frame and then she’s just like everyone else.

If you get a better solution let me know.

Title	Intimacy issues
Author	vaynsterrr
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	January 30, 2019 1:18 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/alclhe/intimacy_issues/
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