Read some recent posts about struggles to get the sex part going (zero sex after 10 dates). Thought this would help...

Even if a woman isn't on the prowl, she'll scan her surrounding environment for allies, enemies, new threats and opportunities. Upon meeting a guy, she instinctively begins a process of qualifying and disqualifying. She'll categorize a guy as either a LOVER, LOSER, PROVIDER or FRIEND.

Lovers attract. Losers repel. Providers are those marriage-material Plan B guys she keeps in reserve, and Friends are the dependable, utilitarian guys or emotionally-supportive girlfriend substitutes she enjoys having around, but has no sexual attraction to.

Unless you walk into a room with a distinct advantage - good looks, high value pre-established, or female interest already in play (pre-selected) - you're starting at the bottom. And her first step is to determine if you pass the Loser Test.

If you are decidedly unattractive and low value, then game over; her interest moves elsewhere. If you pass the Loser Test, she'll evaluate further. But you're still a question mark. She's on the fence, not yet feeling that spark of desire urging her to park her shoes under your bed.

You want her categorizing you as a potential Lover. To do that, you have to act the part - you have to act seductively. Your Game sparks her desire and it's your ability to induce tingles that places you squarely in the Lover category.

If you want to be her Lover, set the tone immediately. Seduction is much easier if you can start off in the Lover category rather than trying to climb back out of the FRIEND ZONE.

If she doesn't feel any sparks of attraction within those first few minutes, she'll dismiss you and emotionally close the book on you.

She might change her mind about the person you are from one minute to the next depending on your interaction and how she feels in the moment. But once she sets her mind about which category you belong in, she doesn't easily change that.

Don't try to attract a girl. Guys try to do this with praise or some form of bait, but it's counter-productive. Instead, you want to make yourself desirable to the point she can't help but feel the chemistry between the two of you.

Most guys don't have much of a sexual vibe. The small window of opportunity to establish Lover status in the girl's mind closes. If you keep hanging around her, she'll put you into her FRIEND ZONE of platonic relationships.

Provider Guy gives off a protective, secure, non-threatening vibe that builds plenty of comfort, but no sexual tension. Not feeling any tingles, she'll see him as solid and dependable, but also stifled, bland and lower SMV.

She may still date Provider Guy, especially if she's post-wall (over 30) because he's a "good catch." He offers resources, utility value, and would be good husband/father material. But she doesn't want HIM, she wants the benefits of being with him... emotional validation, meals, gifts, etc.

A man with higher Survival Value is attractive. The more power, social status, and wealth Provider Guy has, the better. That's the duality of her sexual strategy (Alpha Fux, Beta Bux). She'll sleep with Lovers who make her tingle, but she'll attempt to date and marry upwards on the social hierarchy with the best Provider Guy she can snag.

The Provider Path can be dangerous. With money and freebies as bait, the critters you attract will tend to be gold-diggers. Some of these women are ruthless.

She'll pull the old "I want to take it slow" maneuver to string you along - teasingly dangling the sex carrot while she enjoys all the attention and free stuff. It's a tried and true female formula: avoid sex, maximize profit. Once the deed is done, her sexual power diminishes.

If she can easily manipulate you like that, she'll lose respect and attraction for you. She might try to recruit you as one of her Beta entourage - guys she strings along for non-sexual benefits.

Guys obviously want to be the Lover, but many project Provider Guy tendencies. Some guys mistakenly believe the Provisional Path leads to sexual approval. In trying to attract a particular girl they'll convey messages about wealth, status and stability.

The Lover is more uninhibited and unpredictable, with a hint of potential danger. Rather than protection and support, his vibe is about confidence, freedom and expression of passion. He has a positive, dominant tonality, gives statements of intent and physically escalates.

Once she puts you into the Provider Guy category, she dismisses you as a Lover. That's why demonstrating high value can backfire.

A Beta chump cannot comprehend this. He'll desperately qualify himself while putting her up on a pedestal. He tries his best to impress by being a Nice Guy. He'll do and say many nice things attempting to win her approval.

Compliments will validate her ego, but will eliminate you from Lover status. Massaging her ego lowers your social status. Her desire for you diminishes. No tingles, no deal. That's why treating her nicely can backfire.

One thing is clear to HB... if you overreact to her beauty and start treating her as a high-value princess, you're a chump. When she sees she has complete power over you, she loses respect for you. She can tell you're not worthy of Lover status.

In playing the Lover's role, you want to draw out and encourage her sexual WILD GIRL side, not reinforce her prissy, conservative GOOD GIRL persona.

If she's interested in you, a girl can actually be put off if you're not making some effort to get her into bed. She'll only give you so long before she closes the book on you.

She loves getting attention from a guy she's attracted to, she loves having a sexy fun time and she expects you to have the balls to initiate things. So if you're not making a decent effort, she figures you're not interested or something is wrong... She might start thinking she's not attractive enough.

Some girls will happily take advantage of a guy's inclination to support, protect and validate her. Once you give her all that value for free, she might toss you aside, because she doesn't want a clingy guy. Or she might keep you on a string and continue benefiting from the free service you provide.

As a Beta-Orbiter, you get the illusion of love. She gives you an affectionate "girlfriend experience" without the sexual component, only as long as you keep giving her validation and support. The day you finally stand up for yourself and express your dissatisfaction with the reality of the situation, is the day she indicates how replaceable and unimportant you really are to her.