Should I push myself to go clubbing despite not being a club person?

itiswr1tten · 2019-02-20T13:42:21+00:00

"moral and ethical reasons" are a buffer, aka an outward lie you tell others to cover up an inward insecurity. The reality is you are worried you won't fit in, it won't be fun, and people will think you're weird.

These are all excellent reasons to face your fears and be like Nike - Just Do It. You also have a group to retreat to when you need a break to sit or chill. This is an ideal setup for your first club experience vs. alone or in a gaggle of clueless bros.

Go forth and have fun brother.

SalporinRP · 2019-02-20T15:55:08+00:00

Clubs got old for me quickly. Music way too loud so you can't talk to someone without screaming at them, 20 dollar watered down mixed drinks, etc.

Bars with dance floors are the way to go for me.

someonesopinion6969 · 2019-02-20T13:51:04+00:00

on't particularly like the clubbing scene because of moral and ethical reasons? like what? you don't want to dance with people, take drugs and drink alcohol? you don't have to do fun things with your life. maybe find a style of music you like so you have a reason to dance instead of looking like the awkward retard

Don_Draper27 · 2019-02-20T16:15:17+00:00

The real question is if you genuinely don't like "clubbing" or are you just hamstering excuses to not do something you're inexperienced in.

The only way you're gonna find out is to force yourself to do it and make the absolute best of it.

Why don't you study up on club game and implement what you learn? Why don't you look up some dance moves and build your skills?

This is a good opportunity for you to practice outcome independence. What if you could build the skill and confidence to have fun anywhere you went?

You can either overcome this obstacle and gain valuable experience and opportunities out of it, or you can hamster excuses and continue to settle for mediocrity.

Vouch33r · 2019-02-20T18:10:25+00:00

As someone who used to feel self conscious in clubs, I feel like I'm justified in giving my two cents.

Clubbing is like picking up chicks. If you dance half-hearted or don't fully commit, you will look like a gimp.

I've seen plenty of guys dance like they have autism. The same move over and over again.Completely off beat with the music.

The main pointers:

Be aware of the music. The tempo dictates your movement. Fast tempo equals faster steps/more erratic hand movement. Slower tempo means less stepping and slower movement. Simple.

If you want to get good, study some simple movements. Watch music videos and dance along at home. Watch YouTube videos about basic body popping/street dance.

Forget about everyone else. Love the experience. Dance to have fun. If you dance to have fun and DGAF, girls will notice. I don't give a fuck about what people think. I was out recently and had a couple chicks approach me. I was the only person bold enough to get up on stage.

If someone approaches you to dance, don't adapt your movements for them but be aware of space. Push-Pull-Push-Pull. Dance with them, feign disinterest and dance with them again.

Lastly, don't be all up in your head. Let go fully. It's easy if you remember that most people are too drunk/too high to care.

Good luck dancing man. Slay your enemies/ that pussy!

DayGameChirality · 2019-02-20T17:48:47+00:00

I never liked clubbing, because the music is trash. These days I go to music parties or festivals with music I like (psytrance, dub, techno, etc.), without drunken idiots that tend to absolutely ruin any atmosphere. So generally no EDM, house, trap, hip-hop parties for me. I sometimes go with my friend who's into pickup, but it's not like I have exceptional fun at those kind of parties, I go there with a frame like I'm going to an alien festival really coz majority of those people's behaviours are dumb or animal-like.

I just go there as a scientist to observe human behaviour, provoke reactions, do some dumb stuff like get rejected on purpose. Test my boundaries.

Why don't you find clubs with music you like, though?

MiZiSTiK · 2019-02-20T23:28:59+00:00

I have the same thought process as you. I forced myself to go to a club and a bar a few weeks ago and had a terrible time. It was extremely crowded and the music was so loud you couldn't even hear yourself think. Idk how people enjoy that shit

donkeydodo · 2019-02-20T14:24:25+00:00

Unpopular opinion here on TRP, but try MDMA in case you don't like to party with people in clubs / home parties etc; you'll open yourself up more, and you'll be able to cultivate dancing and socializing with people by doing so

Title	Should I push myself to go clubbing despite not being a club person?
Author	Vouch33r
Upvotes	8
Comments	48
Date	February 20, 2019 1:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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