Need advice for first date

LordMarkStark · 2019-03-10T14:29:38+00:00

You're thinking too much. You have undaunted uncertainties. Let's address them in order..

You have a chance to have a great day. I can't tell you what to say at each moment but there's important things in my life that I do and girls love it. It's manning up to her and get you two into couple mode, and it's charming as you're going to be there for a while, it should help her open up to you and be at ease.

First.... That stuff is in your mind already. You know it. Rehashing it now is bad. As you make your way there you will always drive your car whether she is in your life or not, you will always sleep in the same bed, you will always be who you are. Feel safe with where you're at because after the date you'll have these things. She is today's added benefit.

Before going, whenever, yell, get amped up, grunt. Do some push ups. Then before getting there, sit in silence, don't listen to the radio or music, Zen your mind.

Think about how she is a girl and she cry's, think about fucking her or holding her hand. Know that she wants you but she may be nervous or cautious. Get ready to connect with her and have a good time yourself. But she is nothing to fear because she wants this too, no matter the stage you're at when you're there, no matter the challenges. On a date it's more important to sit beside her and share space while brushing your legs against her than it is being too cocky, it's more important to be bold than simply amazing or having the perfect time. No matter what happens roll with it but also lead and make suggestions on what to do, get a feel for what she also wants to do...

To that end know what the festival is about and if there is some kind of pamphlet, map or program get one maybe. Have a good idea of the layout and or at least have fun exploring.

At a festival if you're walking with her hold her hand and bump into her, don't knock her over or do it too much, and from time to time put your hand on her lower back and take it away, same with holding hands but more hand holding is better than less... And put your arm round her shoulder on occasion and even squeeze it gently, and let go. Be close but don't be up on her a whole lot. The idea being lead here and hopefully she's not so shy as to not feel uncomfortable in cling to you in time more than you do to her. It's like finding a level water spot for you.

Sometimes walk away from her you don't need to be right next to her all day. Say we should hold hands that's the thing to do since we're here together if you need to, and don't ask her for permission, it's more a statement, but don't hold her hand all day.

Make sure you hug her hello if you think it good and tell her she looks great by not dwelling on it but saying simply you look great, do it at the greeting, you're setting a tone.... Take action. Actually check her out up and down. You don't need to smile or gawk at her in greeting.

This should put you two on the rails to being comfortable with each other to connect and hopefully after some hours groping each other, mate.

Its like a railway track. You're not asking her so much as giving her the experience. As a girl she should be glad to experience that from you.

And at some point earlier rather than later kiss her if you can. Don't wait until the end. But also find out more about her. I hope it goes well for you.

If she's going to a festival with you then there's every chance you'll knock her socks off at 17 years of age with the above. If you need to think of her as your dog when looking at her do that too. Don't forget to ask her about her family at some point and get to know her. But make sure to have fun too.

She asked you there I think? So she is keen, you can make it memorable and sexy/hot for yourself and her and for her a little bit though do it all, of the above goes a long way especially when you're doing that, taking an interest in her, and having a good time. I've had plenty of great dates like this in my life and those things are cornerstones of them.

Pick up people and many advisors don't say this because of snake oil, small dicks, or compensation, or they don't get chicks.... Attention at night clubs from drunk girls is not the same thing...but the above should make for one hot ass/cool as hell day for her.

boodie_1961 · 2019-03-10T14:14:27+00:00

Be outcome independent. Have fun together. If it leads to a relationship, fine, if it ends in a ons, fine, if it leads to nothing, just move on.

Title	Need advice for first date
Author	polarizingpotato
Upvotes	1
Comments	2
Date	March 10, 2019 2:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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