My happiness is parallel to what I think people feel about me

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-03-15T06:53:05+00:00

Firstly, don't seek perfection. We're human, and we go through moments of awkwardness, insecurity and 'feeling like we fucked up'. Be comfortable with those feelings, don't beat yourself up for them or else you just layer more negative self talk.

In general, what's helped me, is to basically chill the fuck out and try not to be a perfectionist. I'm a perfectionist when I think the real, authentic me isn't good enough. Then I remind myself that I'm human. Having rough edges and imperfections is what makes us relatable. I've learnt to just laugh. We spend so much time trying to perfect everything (Especially guys on this sub), that to make a fool of yourself is a nice way to take the pressure off.

It isn't the 'messing things up' that people will see, it's the way you handle yourself about it. The more comfortable you are just being you, it signals to others that they can be comfortable being themselves around you.

This is all what leads to real IDGAF mentality.

spirot · 2019-03-15T04:55:37+00:00

You don’t have any self esteem. If you begin to practice self compassion it will increase and this is scientifically proven.

addwater · 2019-03-15T05:33:32+00:00

You find what is important to you and for you. Don't pay attention to words. You can confidently say stupid shit in a masculine frame and you can have a seemingly good convo acting like a bitch. Don't seek external validation, validate yourself. Selfconfidence doesn't come after you accomplish something, it comes first. In fact, irrational selfconfidence is the best thing that you can develop. Don't betray yourself by placing the power over you in people's hands. Also, after a certain point the ability to be "stupid" from time to time is a blessing.

P.S. Look at celebs and famous people, heck, even great historical figures. They often say and DO the stupidest shit and people still think they're smart. It's because they act as though they are the shit.

FereallyRed · 2019-03-15T06:18:33+00:00

Dependent on external validation is no way to go through life.

Casd12 · 2019-03-15T05:00:54+00:00

Have a shit ton of convos then you won't place convos on a pedestal

thrwy75479 · 2019-03-15T05:27:52+00:00

Do you have many friends including close ones?

tinyredline · 2019-03-15T06:13:54+00:00

Fuck I have never seen myself so identity I have the same feeling but I don't understand why, it's something new for me, i got like a year feeling in the same way as you. Sometines I don't feel me. For how long do you have feeling this? How did you began to notice yourself you were feeling like this?

Ps: English is not my matter language, cheers.

Rkingpin · 2019-03-15T07:20:46+00:00

You sound mentally weak

Stop jacking off and start lifting

Ryabemo · 2019-03-15T10:21:36+00:00

Be delusional. If the person was stiff just think to yourself “lord what an autistic person”

Title	My happiness is parallel to what I think people feel about me
Author	FutureAccountantCPA
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	March 15, 2019 4:26 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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