How to get over irrational fear of “hot girls”?

WiredT · 2019-03-24T18:08:30+00:00

Bro, you didnt do what you needed to do in monk mode then. I have cold approach cringes but if I have her number let alone her in bed its over. Just build your self esteem and self worth. You crushing it. You tell your dick “GET UP ROCKY, GET UP YOU BUM”. And you take that thot to the 4th round and wear her ass out. In monk mode, thats what its all about getting your head clear and priorities straight and gaining that mental strength. They are not above you bro, you wont embarrass yourself, your not going to die from any unimpressed reactions.

RedSkeller · 2019-03-24T18:05:59+00:00

Get in the habit of talking to everyone. You'll find 'hot girls' are just like all the others and sometimes more fun to talk to. Practice makes perfect.

rosesmellikepoopoo · 2019-03-24T18:40:21+00:00

Talk to everyone. I work in retail so every hot girl I see I make a point of talking to. I recently went on a date with a hb9 and I just treated it asif it was some random girl who came into my shop that I had to talk to and I went in with the intention of just trying to get to know her. Turns out she was a crazy bitch so I slept with her and then I ghosted.

Also quit watching porn and masturbating.

BookyMcBooks · 2019-03-24T19:40:13+00:00

Women love to flap their yaps, even the beautiful ones. If you just talk to them like normal they would like nothing more than to talk your ears off.

whateverbaszod · 2019-03-24T22:23:10+00:00

How did you get 6 girls in 1mo after 1yr of monk mode ? :o

[deleted] · 2019-03-24T18:43:47+00:00

Picture them uglier. Remind yourself that they're still people. Talk to more of them.

Filmguy000 · 2019-03-24T21:52:24+00:00

It's all in your head. Sure there are some hot ones that have a princess complex but usually they are as insecure or more so than a 6-7. Some of the best times I had with women were with the hotter ones while the average ones were more bitchy and made gaming more challenging, ironically.

mrpoopistan · 2019-03-24T22:08:34+00:00

maybe 7’s. They are instagram hot

I already like this guy.

im shitty in bed/cant get hard/nervous/flaky

Internalized truths are poison, man.

As for the core idea of being shitty in bed, let's cover a few things . . .

Even the most experienced guy is going to have a learning curve with a new partner. Everybody's turn-ons are different, and finding the right buttons to press takes time. That gets even more complicated when you add the dynamic between two people.
You're gonna have a lot of bad sex. I'm pretty happy with the sex life I've had, and I can rightly say I've had a few Olympic fuck sessions that stick with me. That said . . . I've also had lots of bad sex. It's a fact of life.
Have fun. It's stupid, it's sloppy, and there's a pretty good chance it's not going to quite click. The best thing you can do is to embrace those facts and laugh about when it something doesn't quite click. It lets your partner know that they don't have to be perfect, and that'll make it easier for them to just go along for the ride.

There are lots of funny things that happen during sex. Trust me. I dated a 4'9" chick, and I'm a 6'2" guy. Lining up the target could be challenging.

She's likely just as far into her own head as you are in yours.

I don't have trouble getting it up, but it takes a-mega-fuckin-lot to get me off. The funny thing I've learned from that is how much it gets into women's heads. Every one of them things they're the blowjob queen. Frankly, let some of that crazy get into her head instead of yours.

There are worse tragedies than her wondering if you're really attracted to her. In my experience, the self-confident ones will double down hard. They don't believe for a second there's a man on earth who won't fuck them, because that has been their reality since puberty first gave them tiny skeeter bites for breasts.

I was honest with one of them when we tried to fuck (our 2nd meet up) and just told that i was nervous & its all good. I didnt want them to think i wasnt attracted to them

No. You can't set yourself up to fail with self-fulfilling prophecies.

My advice is to focus on what's fun and funny about each situation. Laughter is a great drug, and there's a reason why women like guys who can control a conversation with humor.

stare_at_the_sun · 2019-03-24T22:43:51+00:00

What is a plate?

Non-hot gal here.

Title	How to get over irrational fear of “hot girls”?
Author	swm43
Upvotes	9
Comments	15
Date	March 24, 2019 5:36 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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