Loser BF interference.

So got this girl ( my type) that I cold approached. I decided to leave and ask for a follow up lunch date while the iron was still hot. She said yea to specific date and time, and her last comment before I left was " text me!".

This was the reply( https://imgur.com/a/J0WXmhY ) I cant tell if it's a shit test, or loser BF running interference. She 100% did not mention a BF

2 plays I see here:

1: say it doesn't matter, if he's uncomfortable that's his issue.

2: say he's an insecure loser and can't handle you talking to other guys because he know you'll dump his ass. And I encouraged my ex's to actually go on lunch/coffee dates when guys ask because it makes it obvious how much better I am.

Thoughts?

Edit: considering the replies I got, decided to go with this.

" Haha, sounds like a strong case of insecure "boy"friend. I tell my girls to go on dates when they tell me someone asked her out.They literally run at me next time they see me. Anyways, sorry to hear about your situation, hopefully it changes for the better. Bye. "

Don't got time to deal with bullshit, either she smartens up or will be too afraid to ever interact with me again. Seems like a win-win with that reply.

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Yeah you may have to be around with the BF to see what happens at first. But this is likely the only time to see if this is actually a BF or someone she just keeps around. I mean the concept of orbiter vs boyfriend is not too different for girls sometimes. Some boyfriends have very little actual influence. It could be a silly attempt at flaking.

I'll put it another way. I've seen a really good best friend, that I hang out with because I want to hang out with him. He has a girlfriend, and he brings her around a lot too. But because the guy is my best friend in THIS case, even though I am hanging out with both, if the girl makes a pass at me or something I would report her to the boyfriend because that is what a bro does for his best friend.

But when it's something else, such as say, you invited a girl over, but she insists on bringing her friend with her, and its' not entirely clear that it's a boyfriend.

Or in a different case, she makes it clear that she is bringing along her boyfriend, that is her "defense mechanism". At that point it's not easy to just say "fuck off... I thought you were coming without boyfriend..." See what the relationship actually is. It's possible she is branchswinging; now I wouldn't compliment such an evil woman, but I would fuck her.

It's a bit like "watch how she acts, not what she says..."

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should have replaced " I tell my girls to go on dates when they tell me someone asked her out.They literally run at me next time they see me " with "you really should consider upgrading to a man", otherwise that was perfect.

i might be at the "anger" phase, but I'm pretty much 100% done treating any women that i want a sexual relationship with and respect/common decency. Ive done that all my life, and it was a massive fucking mistake. id rather take the risk of being seen a giant douche-bag then even deal with their crap. and a plus side is that there i am guessing there is a MUCH MUCH higher chance of getting plates being a douche-bag then the nice guy.

PS: yes i know TRP isn't about that, its about frame and so on. each situation is different, and i treat it as such. i know myself, and being a douche-bag for a while is going to substantially help me grow, no more mr nice guy. (i will only act like this to people very far outside my social circle and 0 chance of being in my professional one, and also HB7+).

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Thanks for the feedback. the rest of this comment is more about me writing my thoughts down, then a reply to you.

100% agree with you, Ive learned how to better myself for the past couple of years and its worked great. at this point, i realize exactly what I 'm feeling and why I'm feeling. i can fight it with logic, but Ive learned thats fucking stupid. its like ripping off a band-aid, quick and intense, or slow and painful.

the best part is, this is just a game to me. this is absolutely not interfering with my social/professional/family life, i keep it very separate. the only change is that I'm i tease/insult my friends who are girls more, and they seem to fucking love it, cant stop laughing and going red and i have fun too.

Ive read the TRP post about the stages, and I'm powering through them like crazy. its my personality, i take shit to the extreme when I'm not good at it, and just keep pushing. then the topic changes from a blur that I'm trying to figure out to a puzzle where i know which pieces are missing, and then i hunt those pieces down.

socially anxious -----> that guy everyone talks to, knows everyone and has all the hookups.

chubby with no muscles ---------> soccer player, mountain biker, skate boarder.

shitty ass trade job ---------> motherfucking engineer.

cant pull girls for shit ----------> that guy chad, what asshole for having so many girls after him.*

*pending progress, check back in 1-180 days.

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is valid but you got to get over it quickly

absolutely 100% correct sir, i know myself and this is how i can change (internally). i Decided to be a dick (only for a little time), and get angry and also a little hate. its not 100% directed towards women, a lot of it is at myself. its been less then a few days, and i feel like I'm near the end of this stage.

any by " stupidly priced toys " i mean their values are such garbage, they dont care if a man is successful, nice, moral or literally anything that i would hold as something that makes a person a respectable adult.

they are driven by emotion, its like threes no conscious brain 99% of the time. they have 0 understanding of that for some reason.maybe its because Ive spent years figuring out how to co-exists with my emotions and only let them effect me positively (i have no problem feeling like shit if i fucked up, but i definitely wont let my subconscious kick me down for no logical reason). from my POV, women seem downright fucking stupid, their like a dog or a child under 10. i might be angry because i thought i would find an equal, and have a wonderful life, but all i can do is just get a pet, i mean pets are fucking great, but VASTLY inferior to what i thought was "love".

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Title	Loser BF interference.
Author	GtheSnail
Upvotes	1
Comments	28
Date	April 3, 2019 10:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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