Ongoing shit test

SteelSharpensSteel · 2019-04-15T11:11:37+00:00

Take this to AskMRP.

darthtrevis · 2019-04-15T07:22:57+00:00

Leave.

BrutalMan420 · 2019-04-15T07:36:30+00:00

a kid after 8 months huh

resolutions316 · 2019-04-15T07:23:44+00:00

If she withdraws, you withdraw - not completely, but just enough to give her space to pursue you. Just think of it as vacation time.

She won’t make a decision or commit? Own your shit and lead.

She wasn’t attracted to the abuse. She was attracted to the fact that he wasn’t needy.

Sepean · 2019-04-15T07:42:01+00:00

She hasn't hadn't had much life experience. Before I was with her she was with an unemployed douchbag who sounded like a narcissist. She stayed with him for years until it becomes clear he wasn't going to ever get a job.

Let’s be clear what happened here. The guy was alpha, girls like that. Did she leave because she wanted a good beta to provide for her future child, did he leave because a hotter girl came along?

My partner and I are together 8 months... trying to get pregnant. She's 27, I'm 41.

Also, make fucking sure she knows you’re getting a paternity test done.

She emotionally withdraws from me... deliberately as a strategy to have me come in. This is the opposite of how she behaved with Douchbag...I've read old letters.

Yep, you’re beta, he was alpha. Girls don’t treat betas well.

If I push her to open up she shuts down even more. If I really push her she becomes explosively angry. I'm running out of patience.

Push her to open, what does that mean? Are we talking lifting, frame or game? That’s how you get girls to become attracted to you, and attraction is the cause of emotional attachment.

It feels like she wants a Douchbag who will abuse her. Thoughts

Being treated well is of minor importance to girls, they pretty much only care about alpha. If you’re alpha you can be protective or abusive, they’ll like you either way.

It sounds like you lack even basic red pill knowledge, read the sidebar.

WegGooi17 · 2019-04-15T07:25:16+00:00

r/askmrp

Suck-Less · 2019-04-15T09:34:55+00:00

She is young, hot (?), and makes you feel young. I get it. You get to show her off to all your guy friends and talk shit. Then women out there that are your age are bitchy, financially independent or financially destroyed, all along the way every fantasy they have has crashed and burned - now they are a horror show to deal with (probably all the above). I understand that too. Here’s what you don’t understand:

Her baby clock is pounding in the back of her head, and she has found some older guy (sucker) with a job that can pay for the baby. He’s old enough to support her through the first few years, then she can dump his stupid ass for younger and hotter while living off child support. All the above and she is using dread against you, and she actively doesn’t want commitment.

If she gets pregnant get a fkn DNA test. Better yet get a vasectomy and don’t tell her. If you ever wonder where Jerry Springer gets his guests, look in the mirror.

I have a long fucking way to go in order to get my own shit together but even I can see this train wreck coming in slow fucking motion.

Neutral_User_Name · 2019-04-15T08:33:54+00:00

The woman is not in charge of the "protection and commitment" decision, you are.

Women are responsible for "pussy access" (mate selection), and rearing your offspring. That's it.

In Red Pill terms: your dread game is -very- low. It does not bode well, mate!

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2019-04-15T09:03:58+00:00

Dread.

SBIII · 2019-04-15T11:02:42+00:00

Your life is a fucking shitshow, you are living in denial and are completely delusional. You are in no fit mental state to have a kid. You need to sort your head and your life out before you even entertian the idea of bringing a kid into this world and passing on your shit to him / her.

I had mental health issues which fucked me up until my early 30s. Now I'm good... really good

No, you aren't. You are still fucked up. You posted this two months ago..

Met an amazing woman. 14 years younger. Hot, kind and I'm wrecking it with constant insecurity and reassurance seeking.

Any slight change in her mood or tone and I'm convinced that she is having an affair or thinking of having one or thinking of dumping me. I misinterpret everything. I'm suspicious bordering on paranoid.

I don't trust my own judgement.

I'm wrecking something awesome.

I got into a relationship too soon. But she was too good to pass up.

I've been to a psychologist. I feel like breaking it off to put myself out of my misery

Does that sound like someone who is mentally stable?

Why are you so desperate to have a kid? You are 41, not 81. As a man, you can have a kid at any age, yet you seem to view this as your last chance ever...

I think I'm approaching the last of my chances. If this relationship fails, unlike my last one this will be my fault entirely and I fear for myself should this happen.

What the fuck is wrong with you? You're not a female hitting the wall, but you fucking sound like one.

You're also broke...

I'm not financially secure.

Yet you want to raise a kid? Have you any idea how much it costs to do this?

What kid of irresponsible prick decides to have a child that he can't afford to raise? What kind of an asshole decides to have a kid when he has fucked up mental issues that he hasn't resolved?

You are 41, you're broke, your head is a fucking mess and you're in a relationship where you have no idea what the fuck you are doing.. and now you want to get her pregnant.

This is not going to end well.

reddysettygo · 2019-04-15T09:50:16+00:00

I’m curious, are you guys trying to get pregnant because you want a child, or she wants a child? If it is a mutual decision, who is more vested in having a child? You are 41 already - that’s my age. Once the child is an adult at 18 you’ll be quite old already, and older still once they are truly independent (25-30+) you’d probably already be in your 70’s.

If there are relationship issues, they tend to magnify in severity by orders of magnitude, especially after marriage and especially after children. If that is fine by you, then go ahead, but there are enough cautionary tales around you within a stone’s throw range. You just need to walk into this with your eyes wide open.

jm51 · 2019-04-15T11:19:44+00:00

If you want a family, the top priority is her qualities as a mother. No matter how well or badly the future turns out, not much else matters long term.

Must be horrible for those fathers sacrificing their happiness by staying with a bad mom in order to minimise the damage done to their children. Sounds like you are about to learn that the hard way.

27 is baby rabies territory. Such women are usually totally charming. Until they've got the baby, then they revert to type. Yours is showing red flags and the baby isn't even conceived yet. Think of her worst day, times it by ten and that's your life once you've knocked her up.

Forget about how great a womans tits and ass looks and find yourself a woman worthy of giving birth to your children. Anything over that is a bonus.

Title	Ongoing shit test
Author	Lovelosslove
Upvotes	3
Comments	20
Date	April 15, 2019 7:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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