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Beta's wife "falls in love" with someone else over facebook, but doesn't want a divorce. Arranges to meet lover for fuckfest while he's in town tonight. Beta husband blames himself, refuses to leave her.

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September 24, 2014
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Title Beta's wife "falls in love" with someone else over facebook, but doesn't want a divorce. Arranges to meet lover for fuckfest while he's in town tonight. Beta husband blames himself, refuses to leave her.
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Upvotes 39
Comments 29
Date September 24, 2014 12:42 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2hbpa7/betas_wife_falls_in_love_with_someone_else_over/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/betas-wife-falls-in-love-with-someone-else-over.227968
https://theredarchive.com/post/227968
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[–]Saturnalia93 27 points28 points29 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She never physically cheated

Yeah, whatever you tell yourself to make it easier to sleep at night, bud.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

"emotionally" cheating on me

I was having a beer and in laughter, I spit alcohol all over my screen. That's the funniest thing I've ever read!

I think there's a chance that she doesn't go through with it, so maybe I wait it out and see what happens?

"It's already over" - Trinity Killer

I'm so lost, I don't know what to do.

(And before the advice comes to just leave her, that's not what I'm going to do, so please don't even bother with it.)

So you want shitty advice?

I don't usually laugh at shit like this but this is hilarious.

[–]sir_wankalot_here 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't usually laugh at shit like this but this is hilarious.

It is wrong to laugh, but sometimes you can't help it. The pussy nonconfrontational advice like call the guy's wife is downright hilarious.

[–]Bob_miller 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

I guess I don't get the whole laughing at emotional cheating. Are you laughing because he doesn't view it as full cheating? In my experience it's a real thing. It's the reason my soon to be ex-wife (finalizing papers for filing now) is my soon to be ex-wife and not my wife. It's infidelity as much as physical infidelity is. Should be treated and punished the same. Divorce.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Are you laughing because he doesn't view it as full cheating?

Yeah, that's why I thought it was funny. The fact that he put it in quotation marks made it even funnier.

[–]Bob_miller 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Hopefully he will eventually see it as a wakeup call. My wife's affairs have been the fire that burned me down to ashes for me to be reborn into what I am now. I was like this guy, I was a 'nice guy'. Got my wife flowers all the time, tended to her every needs, gave her tons of attention,etc. Totally beta. I believed her when she downplayed her first emotional affair, the second was a bit of a wakeup but I still didn't assert myself. It took me a few years, building up anger, discovering more information, her denying and avoiding. Looking back it was a shitty time, took me 3 years and a lot of counseling before I finally took my life back into my own hands.

I don't agree with everything that is said here on TRP, but I feel there is a lot of good information about self confidence, sticking to what you believe to be true, sticking to your beliefs and morals, sort of a MGTOW lite sort of ideal that I strive for.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Hopefully he will eventually see it as a wakeup call

Exactly. His story was so beta that a part of me felt he was trolling. There are plenty of similar situations out there like that though.

My wife's affairs have been the fire that burned me down to ashes for me to be reborn into what I am now

Spoken like a man who's truly awake. The new you is going to be awesome as shit man. Being able to see things for how they really are is a beautiful thing.

I feel there is a lot of good information about self confidence, sticking to what you believe to be true, sticking to your beliefs and morals, sort of a MGTOW lite sort of ideal that I strive for.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Your principles, goals and dreams always come first. Who gives a fuck about what others think? Nobody on here does. If you are new here I'm extending you a welcome.

[–]Bob_miller 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks for the welcome. I've been sort of lurking in this subreddit for awhile. This is sort of a throw away for me. To discuss some more personal things that I don't want broadcast to the world on my normal login. That one is a bit easier to track down to me in RL and I don't want future employers/family/friends to be able to see all that goes on in my head.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You're not the only one man. Self censorship is key.

[–][deleted] 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Is that you President Underwood

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedPillDad 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Literally EVERYTHING between men and women is about sex, except sex, that's about power. If you don't consistently win that power struggle your relationship is done. A woman wants the passion of the struggle though, but she desperately wants to lose it without her letting you win.

That's a bolt of insight to the brain...

♂

[–]Upvote Me!trpbot[M] 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Bukkaking 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

OMFG, read the update thread, this shit is even more cringe and just plain sad.....

"My wife did not cheat, and she did not have plans to cheat. The messages I saw were the last remnants of a fantasy that she was trying to work through. I confronted her early and it went exactly as I thought it would. She was very upset that I was snooping in on her messages when I told her I wouldn't. I had told her I was going to trust her again and I didn't. This is something that we both have to work on now. And you know what? We're going to work on it and we're going to be okay."

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[–]1oldredder 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

No but I bet $5 the real alpha can order the husband to go grab him some beer because he's too busy fucking the wife.

And it better be some import beer. Gonna fuck foreign-wife it better be foreign-beer to go with it.

Snap, snap, I want that beer before I bust a nut.

[–]myschadenfreude 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's so incredibly alien to me I cannot comprehend how sad it really is.

[–]svogliate 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Now he's deleted the whole thing, his wife claimed it was all a "fantasy," and he's going to "seek professional help."

It's like pouring sand down your carburetor and then taking the car to a mechanic. No professional could fix this.

People are free to fuck up their lives any way they like, but this is just pathetic.

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[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

As long as I'm the other guy then I see no problem for me

[–]Mafamaticks 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I didn't read the article but he should blame himself. Its always our fault. He let all the shit happen before hand and it got to this point.

[–]1AreYouAware_ 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely. Women have hypoagency, to which it follows that men must act as thought they have hyperagency.

It's always up to the man to identify his own weaknesses and shore them up. It's always up to the man to identify when his woman's attentions are straying, and take appropriate action (dread, nexting outright) to put an end to it.

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd say I feel bad for this guy but I'd be lying.

(And before the advice comes to just leave her, that's not what I'm going to do, so please don't even bother with it.)

That he's ruled out the possibility of leaving her just shows that he is not to be pitied as the concept of self-preservation seems completely lost on him.

What I find surprising though is that even though he's the beta here his wife is clearly a sub. I would have thought he would have been the sub here and his wife the dom.

[–]1Zanford 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"Power abhors a vacuum." Most women are naturally submissive in the bedroom, but if you don't put and keep them in their place, they will ratchet up the shit-tests, nagging, domineering, etc. until they are the dom.

[–]AnotherLostCause 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If he divorced her he'd be the man she wants to be with so I guess in a way it is his fault. The crash cant come fast enough to make me happy.

[–]53Pirate 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

The guy says at the end of his post: (And before the advice comes to just leave her, that's not what I'm going to do, so please don't even bother with it.)

Well, given that ... there's just no help for this fucking guy, then.

[–]1oldredder 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

well I posted something I think would be helpful: the other guy has a wife too.

Why not have her over... and just keep her for a bit? Maybe she'll be into that. Maybe that'll show wife number 1 and husband number 2 neither one of them are going to just exploit their spouses.

Who the fuck knows - not that I think that man will ever step up but being able to have his own wife plus spin the other as a plate (obviously he will not) could be fun, after all, the other one already has a ring on her finger so he can just toss her back to husband number 2 and any financial problems with marriage/divorce are his fucking problem not the original poster's.

[–]TRP VanguardJP_Whoregan 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Soooo this guy's wife is cheating on him with a man who's also married....that's just another day at ashleymadison.com, I fail to see the big deal.

[–]TRP VanguardtrpSenator 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I was going to post this, but I hate RedditLog because it doesn't highlight OP and it's hard to find his comments, and the picture was too big for imgur.

The whole thing is pathetic. Even Reddit thinks it's pathetic. He admits, ffs, that he'll take her back regardless... Then tries to play her off as a victim who's "under his spell" or some shit. Then refuses to even confront her on it.

Guy needs to grow some balls. If some other dude, even if it's BDSM and she's into that submission shit, you can't just let her go fuck some guy soon as he tells her to.

I swear to God, I've never met a person into BDSM that isn't fucking psychotic. It's not a "kink", it's mental instability.

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