Little Timmy Syndrome

rpscrote · 2014-10-16T17:44:51+00:00

I'm surprised that people get so up in arms about this. This is essentially the same idea as maintaining frame, with different verbs and nouns. Sure, don't act like things aren't what they are, but focus on the new opportunities and forget the missed opportunities.

harkrank · 2014-10-16T18:56:28+00:00

Let me put another twist on the issue.

Frustration and anger is the emotion you get when your mind cannot find a solution for you to achieve what you desire. Problems and challenges and hardship don't make you frustrated as long as you have an idea of a plan to continue. When the mind realizes it has reached a dead-end and has no plan to achieve what it desires the resulting emotion is frustration and anger. That's why so-called nice guys are so frustrated. They want people to respect them and women to desire them, yet they run into a wall because they have a rule planted in their mind to never be confrontational or disregard other people's desires.

Remove the rule and you remove almost all frustration. Removing the rule will not automatically make people respect them or women desire them. Removing the rule will not even make them know how to move ahead, but removing the rule will at least take away the dead-end.

Frustration and anger is the mind's way of shaking itself into realizing it is doing something wrong, that's why it's such an unpleasant feeling. That's why angry and moody people are universally hated, because their minds are not working properly since they cannot remove themselves from the dead-end. It is a feeling of powerlessness and not being in control. That's why people avoid angry people because you cannot trust somebody who isn't in control of himself. They are soon to reprogram themselves so why invest in getting to know them until then? Until they have a frame.

Once you've matured your mind you probably rarely feel really strong anger or frustration, but it's still important to use these emotions in communicating with other people when they act in a way you don't desire. If somebody angers you you should let them know, otherwise you're alienating them within your mind. If they are unreasonable after they know they anger you, you can alienate them, but you shouldn't alienate people before they've even realized how you feel just because you are afraid to speak up.

One thing that is rarely mentioned is that a lot of people are going on with their life without pursuing a concrete goal. That breeds easy frustration, because how can you achieve your desire when you don't have a clear idea of your desire?

I can go on and on but I have already.

vengefully_yours · 2014-10-16T22:06:37+00:00

People driving like idiots used to piss me off, because I came from a professional environment where everyone driving was on the same page. Out on the highways you have people who stop at yield signs and green lights, but blow through red lights and stop signs. They drive 15 to 20 mph under the posted limit because they aren't in a hurry and only have to go five or six miles, and the traffic backs up behind them for the entire five miles.

It made me furious because I expected professional competent driving in an environment filled with barely conscious idiots. Expect less from them and it's amusing watching them go the wrong way around a roundabout. Point and laugh instead of giving them the finger.

When you realize most people are stupid, barely aware and on auto pilot it's easier to not be angry. You can't fix stupid.

Drive aggressively, tailgate me even when I slow to let you around, swerve into my lane where I am occupying it, or some other idiocy that threatens me or my property, you bet your ass I will get mad, but not violently so, though you will know not to fuck with me again.

SgtTRP · 2014-10-16T04:52:13+00:00

TL;DR:

“My emotions are REAL, I get angry, happy, sad, depressed and lonely!” Of course you do. What you do not realize is all of it.. yes all of it.. is based on a story that you tell yourself.

Change your perspective and your reality will change too. No, things won't start to fall upwards. But you will realize that you can simply stop being Little Timmy and start being a man.

And please don't humor such posts, brothers. I know you mean well but you are just fueling the attention seeking behavior in these people. Don't even tell them to man up. Remember that TRP is not a support group for whiny betas.

The truth is out there. What needs to be done (to repeat it once again) is to lift, read the sidebar & approach.

Dogamaran · 2014-10-16T19:04:19+00:00

In psychology it's called regression, for example when I do leg day I go into a state of regression and am primed to throw a silent temper tantrum on the floor because my hip clicks or some other thing prevents me from doing the perfect squat. It's childish but it's somehow engrained into me, I have a measure of control over it but the massive amount of frustration it causes me to be unable to control my body in one of the simplest way reverts my psychology to that of a child unless I recognize it and take steps to control it.

The same thing happens to plenty of people in any other frustrating or upsetting scenario they just don't have knowledge of the concept/phenomena, the means to control it and often the will to control it. It's atypical for someone to be in a continual state of regression, that person would end up in mental health facility before too long.

Regression can be caused by other strong emotions too but it is typically negative emotions that cause regression.

sir_wankalot_here · 2014-10-16T12:52:13+00:00

Little Timmy syndrome is what 50%+ of TRP suffers from. Find any story about a woman, generate a story around it making the woman a feminazi.

Little Timmy adjusts the facts to fit his story. As opposed adjusting the story to fit the facts.

DoesNotMatterAnymore · 2014-10-16T11:26:24+00:00

If your girlfriend calls you up and breaks up with you, you might be “devastated” or “elated” depending on the story surrounding the breakup. If you are “free”, then you are happy. If you are “losing you best friend” you might be angry and sad. Either way the event is she broke up with you. The feeling is the story. So... change the story, change the emotion.

So you are advocating male hamstering? Because you are doing exactly that. -I'm not happy about my emotions, let's change the script so i can feelzzz better.

Although i see your point, i can't agree with it.

Kaltano · 2014-10-16T18:54:50+00:00

I get that your main point is AWALT and you need to roll with the punches as far as that is concerned which I agree with. However you also frame it in a way, intentional or not that makes it sound like men should not expect to be able to set boundaries or have an emotional response to those boundaries being broken. Which is going to be a hard sell here since that's a major part of the feminist narrative, men having expectations for women's behavior is oppressive.

AchillesOtherLeg · 2014-10-16T14:52:04+00:00

So man up and shut down?

Down-vote. There are enough people telling me I'm not entitled to feel anything.

TheRealMewt · 2014-10-16T09:04:59+00:00

So what you're asking us to do in order to not be Little Timmy is to perform a series of mental gymnastics to change the reasoning why somebody does certain things. That's hamstering and I will not be a woman for you.

Dogamaran · 2014-10-16T07:23:46+00:00

Denial is not the answer. Negative emotions are as significant in your life as positive emotions, or perhaps even more. Twisting the reality of events to soothe your emotions is possibly the worst advice you could give to anyone. That's text-book hamstering.

If Susan cheated on Little Timmy, it's probably because either 1) He made a bad, stupid decision to trust her Or 2) He wasn't strong enough to hold onto her. What he needs to do now is re-evaluate the situation and find out his shortcomings instead of shutting down his emotions and carrying on as if it was nothing. Learn, learn, learn.

RedPillSafe · 2014-10-16T15:30:44+00:00

Wow... you just described how women hamster.

<<< Exactly why should men imitate women like this? >>>

This is not the proper lesson of Red Pill !!!

Men experience pain and truth... women hamster emotional loops.

Accept the pain.

Comment:

I suspect the "fake it until you make it" PUA stuff is overly infuencing some Red Pill members.

Title	Little Timmy Syndrome
Author	Dogamaran
Upvotes	55
Comments	57
Date	October 16, 2014 4:28 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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