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Why is this happening

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May 6, 2019
187 upvotes

Most posts on AskTrp are becoming questions you'd see from relationship advice etc, it's almost like we need a sidebar that has every possible situation detailed in depth.

Males self perception is sinking progressively lower, you'll almost never hear a man being told he doesn't deserve his partner and it's even rarer for him to think it himself. It's shockingly clear every time I read up on askTRP. Without fail there is always a post about some man keenly questioning, begging for a path forward in his relationship, hoping that the answers he receives can help him salvage his sole pussy supply. He'll detail his struggles with his partner talking to other guys, disrespecting him in public or not showing an interest in the relationship at all. He'll then trickle truth how she treats him like shit in it's entirety.

Despite doing most of the legwork in the relationship, so many men are willing to put up and settle for absolute trash. The feminine imperative is so deeply rooted inside the psyche of modern males that they are all but ready to run through traffic to keep it going. They instinctively assume the role of lucky-to-have-her boyfriend, cutting out all contact with other women, excessively expressing their love, taking care of all her needs, all the while thinking that their partner is special or unique. She, on the other hand plods along thinking she's doing him an absolute favor simply by existing. They think this dynamic is normal, they think this what they deserve.

Overturning this insidious narrative takes some serious mental gymnastics. You have to filter out the lifelong poison and refresh the water with some perspective and practice. When you come out the other side you're hit with a harsh truth. Most of the time, she doesn't deserve you or your efforts. The majority of these women are not fit for LTR's, they're disrespectful and entitled thots. They do not add value and they're not special. Pump them, dump them, glaze their faces, I don't care, but sweet Jesus do not give them the privilege of your valuable commitment. Have some self respect and put a price on your time and energy. Let it be earned, let it be worked for, give it only to those lusting after your attention. Only once you start valuing yourself, your time and where you invest it, will you start to yield returns.

To get an idea of the sort of a relationship worth settling and investing in, you need to have experienced deep, passionate feminine desire. The type where a women behaves like a beta male about to get a whiff of his unicorn. That is what women morph into in the presence of a man they truly desire. That is how they behave when they truly and utterly need the man in front of them. When they talk to him they get nervous and hair twirly while stumbling over their words. They'll blush and boast, trying to qualify themselves as worthy. They'll clear their schedule, and reply to messages with eagerness. When they get the opportunity they'll fuck him with vigor, trying to lure him in with their sexuality. They'll excuse him, defend him, lose friends for him and pay for him. She'll always maintain a sweet, loving and caring disposition because she know's she's lucky to have him. He won't have to tell her to not flirt with other guys in front of him, or disrespect him in public. He won't have to tell her to not be angry or moody. He won't have to tell her how to treat him well. She knows how to do it, and she'll do it for him willingly because she doesn't want to risk losing her perfect catch. She knows full well there is a bus load of other women who long for her place.

All the while he knows his value too. He sticks with her because she is serving him in every way that he desires. She does what he wants, is loyal and adds value to his life. She makes his days more enjoyable, not stressful or challenging. She earns the privilege of being his LTR, but her place beside him is never fully secured. It lasts as long as she serves him well and keeps him satisfied. If/When she slacks off, he's gone, back into the wild, to enjoy another of the many women willing to serve his desires. This is the the only type of love worth settling for, I'm not going to be so delusional(as our female counterparts) to say you deserve it though. You get what you earn and you get what you settle for, that responsibility lies with no one but you. You need to put in the work and effort to build value, and you need to learn the awareness to know when you're being treated like a valuable man should. If you haven't cultivated either of these tools then you're not ready for an LTR.

Know what you want, and work towards it, but for god's sake stop settling for mediocrity.

So why dont you open the sidebar?


Post Information
Title Why is this happening
Author SnowLeopardSno
Upvotes 187
Comments 34
Date 06 May 2019 11:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/237414
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/blj1gm/why_is_this_happening/
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[–]ModTheRedPike[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy

Generally, I would remove this post because it does violate the rules. However it generated EC interest and seems to be getting across a point I've had difficultly with the last month, so it stays. Next time, if you have something to say, put it in the main sub, but read this first.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed97 points98 points  (7 children) | Copy

Entitlement and feminizing.

"Just give me the answer, not interested in theory or putting in any effort, I just need to pass this test.!"

It's not about the test.

If you don't take some agency for your own growth and do some work, you'll forever be asking questions, looking for answers to every subsequent test, because you don't have knowledge, you only have the answer key to one test.

I think of it as building a knowledge pyramid. You need to get your foundation in place. Only when you do that can you see what stones you need to place and where. You've begun ascending. As you learn, you find more stones, and you then go place them in their place. Up and up. When you have a question, it comes from the base of knowledge, so when the answer stone arrives, you already have a place for it to rest. And so on.

If you come in fragmented without a foundation/base, all the answer stones you receive end up in a jumbled pile on the ground. Forgotten and discarded as soon as you get them. No knowledge, no plan, no pyramid, just a random garbage heap of stones.

There are 5-10 posters in here that are "clocksucking askholes."

Forever stuck in the loop, wasting time, concentrating on the tree trunks they keep running into and ignoring the fact they're lost in the forest.

Men take pride in developing themselves and figuring shit out. Running to mommy every time a situation arrives that you're not prepared for is proof of the feminization of men in general that society is undergoing.

Over three years ago u/Whisper wrote Don't talk to me like a bitch.

Stop being a bitch.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I loved that post, I agree with everything.

[–]Startlivingfornow1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Holy fuck that post is insane. Any others you’ve got hidden away? I bookmark a select few so I don’t have to wade through the sewage

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hit the "follow" button on any flaired guys you like. Then go to their submitted history and read. Mods, vanguard, seniors, and endorsed.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Redpillschool, Humansockpuppet, and Whisper. Read everything these guys post.

[–]Kannonn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The knowledge pyramid/stone analogy is gold.

[–]RX0II1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think most guys just want to get an okay girlfriend.

Most guys don't really want to be better men.

Most guys don't really want to understand the system.

Most guys don't want to be players.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K181 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This...so much this.

I was just thinking this the other day, and I see it in my work all the time. Fuck'n 'askholes'. Expect someone else to be there and give them every answer along the way. Don't want to empower themselves, or have no idea of the change process and what it takes.

So many guys on here want a fucking shortcut to everything. They want an answer to control the uncontrollable and assure they can get the womanz. Totally and utterly outcome dependent. No sense of the process, no change where change is truly needed.

Some dudes will never get it. Those who do follow the 'just tell me how to get the woman', are the ones who come back and say it's all unfulfilling and become nihilistic. They didn't follow the process.

[–]TheRedPillRipper16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

why dont you open the sidebar?

Laziness. humans want easy answers quickly u/SnowLeopardSno. That's why those of us that enjoy the details have it much easier.

[–]Thinkingard8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of guys do seem to be asking questions to have someone validate their decision to stick with their ho. It's human nature to stick with what you know and rationalize it than leave something behind and go out again into the unknown. I'm learning a big part of TRP is building yourself up enough to the point where you can venture into the unknown with healthy anticipation instead of dread and fear. Before these guys go after a solid feminine woman who meets his needs, he needs to know how to love himself first. It sounds cliche and feminine, but a lot of guys don't put themselves first, and you need to know how to do that. Then, you learn how to continue doing that in the midst of a relationship and lead your woman along. Betas always put women first, but we no longer live in a society where there is any reward to that.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

So why dont you open the sidebar?

They hear about TRP and come here to ask about their super special snowflake unicorn.

They don't want to spend 3 months digesting the sidebar, they want TRP to fix their one problem so they can go back to the same situation but with getting laid more.

They don't realise the depth of the hole they're in.

[–]SinisterIntentions240 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Seriously this.. I came to TRP three(?) years ago still in a relationship, I had to let my failing LTR crash and burn before I could really accept TRP. I thought I was special, I wasn’t.

Monk mode was crucial

I feel like most of the posts are people wanting to have someone affirm that their failing relationship isn’t failing (it is).

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah... this place is largely "I heard TRP will get me laid and fix all my problems, please get me laid and fix all my problems".

I have some sympathy: the main sidebar is a lot to wade through, and the answers and the destination are not spoonfed to the reader (a good thing, but it's going to hamper engagement).

AskTRP's is a little better, but it doesn't answer all the main questions people ask here.

[–]No_senses0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Part of the reason I stopped visiting. Too many trolls, and too many people who don’t want to hear the truth. Let’s be real, asktrp as a whole can be archived and all the answers people want can be found through search.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (2 children) | Copy

Hey, can you do me a favor and go through and put in some breaks and space this shit out into a cohesive digestible statement instead of just a running block of text?

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Better?

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Excellent, now more people will read it. Thank you very much.

[–]therandombiker13 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Passionate feminine desire” Yeah that’s the key. The problem is most of men go trough live never experiencing this. That’s why they can’t really break the mental barrier.

[–]hazaraMoghul2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Married Guys/guys in relationship please read No More Mr Nice Guy. It will solve 99% of your relationship issues.

[–]SauliusTRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even after opening the sidebar usually guys want to live their blue pill dream, just with some red pill knowledge. Acceptance is a long process

[–]LilLoserFreny1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is what happens when the red pill subreddit is quarantined and you have newbies who have not read the sidebar.

[–]DiscordantMonk2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

We need some sort of awalt spectrometer to easily find the women who will give us the best love and devotion.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

You'll feel it when she's the one bro :) /s

[–]wheresMYsteakAt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, this time it's different bro

[–]SinisterIntentions243 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well after we lost the original TRP sub, I don’t really blame new guys for not knowing everything.

I really blame reddit for this. There is something to be said about an individual pulling themselves up on their own, but it really seems like a stacked societal game against men/masculinity. I know there is a sidebar, but it took me awhile to fully accept TRP and swallow the pill back when we had the original sub and more resources.

It took me months to fully accept TRP, so now you have a beta in a relationship who wants help fast and doesn’t want to accept the core views of TRP. Yeah, they gonna ask stupid redundant questions

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know TRP isn't gone? It's quarantined. Open in desktop mode

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most people are trash, including most of the people asking questions here, and the women they are currently associated with. Dragging yourself inch by inch out of being average should be the goal. Dumping all your bad habits, cultivating good ones should be your goal.

If you wonder why something is going wrong in your life, it can only be two factors.

Either you messed it up or you are unlucky. We do not focus on fortune, but it plays a major role in our lives. Development is so difficult to magically attain, you have to be pushed, you have to be shocked or uncomfortable.

You feel so negative you just can't stand it. So then you fix it.

[–]vullnet1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

People want validation for their situations. I did the same shit. Would post advice on forums about what to do with my ex, ignore all the people giving me good advice, and wait for the one idiot to validate me and keep on doing the same shit.

[–]Orfeu_da_Conceicao0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Good question OP. Guys are finding TRP and are being too lazy to improve themselves. Rather ask for answers. I'm taking a 6 month break. See you next year gentleman.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sure you will. See ya here next week!

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like someone is perma stuck in the anger phase

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tf... You're complaining about the posts here yet go on to write an essay in a sanctimonious tone, on Reddit. Grow up. Sorry we can't all be perfect like you.

[–]Bedtimeshine-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Asktrp turning into relationship advice is a good thing. The ONLY value of trp is when it is applied to relationships.



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